Why so up and down
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| Wed, 11-02-2005 - 7:06am |
It's been less than a month since my boyfriend and I made it official after several weeks of him "needing space" while he hit rock bottom - - and finally began to deal with his feelings over his divorce from last year.
I have finally initiated no contact and I am on day 5. I have been reading books, exercising, realizing that confusion about wanting to be with me is just the same as NOT wanting to be with me - - and I am working hard not to personalize this.
What I am seeing is I have one great day, and one sucky day. I want more great days in a row!! I know everyone is different, but I just want to feel better, put this behind me and move on. I look forward to the day I wake up (and no, not @ 3am) and I don't care if I ever hear from him again.
He emailed me some article with information related to my 401K investment night before last, no text, nothing other than the article.
It really kinda ticked me off. I am feeling like "hey, you broke it off with me, GO AWAY". I am sure he was just trying to help/inform me....but WHAT IS THAT?? Really burns me. LEAVE ME ALONE - - I want to get past him like he has gotten past me.
Any advice???
Donna - - sick of this roller coaster ride just want off...

I would simply block him from emailing you rather than wasting time and energy wondering "why" he did so.
Yes, the ups and downs are hard. With time and no contact, you'll gradually notice, however, that the lows aren't as low and don't last as long. But recovery isn't a straight line...be prepared for a few ups and downs even when you've felt more up than down for a while. The good news is, it WILL pass...eventually. It's going through it that sucks ;-). But unfortunately there's no getting around the process..."the only way out is through".
Sheri