10yrs and my heart still longs for my Ex

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Registered: 11-08-2005
10yrs and my heart still longs for my Ex
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Tue, 11-08-2005 - 2:58pm
Ladies I really need your help, It has been 10yrs since Stephanie and I broke up and my heart still longs for her. I have since married a wonderful woman I feel very guilty but cannot help it. I beleive that Stephanie has married as well, so the whole thing is hopless which adds to my dismay. I cannot beleive that if I still care for after all these years that my feelings cannot be infatuaton or wanting what I can't have (obsession). Please help, any advice is appreciated - how do I cope? get over? HELP
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Registered: 08-04-2003
Wed, 11-09-2005 - 2:31pm

Grieving is the only way to get past it. Grieve for what might have been, for what could have been, for what you hoped would have been.

The most painful state of being is remembering the future, particularly one you can never have - Kierkegaard


Carrie

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 11-09-2005 - 7:00pm

You can never step into the same river twice. As soon as you leave the river, it changes. The water is always flowing.

The woman that you remember from 10 years ago no longer exists. You are pining for a figment of your imagination. People do this for many reasons, what is yours? Find the key to your own heart, what is making YOU tick?