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| Thu, 11-10-2005 - 2:49pm |
Me n my bf had been together for 2 years, without any breaks. We were so happy and in love, i dont really know what happened. Things got in between us i guess? We both were on the merge of finding ourselves and growing up? Well i was graduating and he still had another year. I guess he started messing up when it was my senior year and he knew i would be leaving the school. We had always walked the halls together met up after every class and were togther every min we could be. I think maybe he was scared to be alone after i graduated. and didnt know what to do.?? But anyways he started cheating and not being himself. He changed and everyone noticed it. So that led to us breaking up and i dont even know how it all happened. all at once. His first week into school i broke up with him because i knew things would be going on at school since i wouldnt be there and i didnt want to worrie about it. Two days after we broke up he got a new girlfriend?!!! Can you tell me how that is possiable? is it because he dont want to be alone at school or what>? Believe me i was mad but now i understand somewhat because he still come to my house still tells me he loves me and wants to be together when he is done with school? SOO SO confused. But if he does then why does he do all the messed up things in between? And why does he have a girlfriend? Even though he has already cheated on her.? help..please....

Hi Love_n_Karma,
From your post you sound pretty young... how old are you?
He is doing what he wants to do and his morals, values and standards justify his choices, decisions, behavior and actions. He cheated on you. He's cheating on her. Do you really need to know anything else?
He's still coming over and telling you things because he wants to not burn the bridge with you - he's afraid of being alone. He doesn't want you to think badly of him, he wants you on the back burner....
You will have to be the one to set a boundary and stick to it.
Focus on you and your healing. Sorry you have to go through this.
Carrie