Drunk Dialed and soo embarrassed!

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Registered: 10-03-2004
Drunk Dialed and soo embarrassed!
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Sun, 11-13-2005 - 12:56am
Hey all... any advice or words of comfort would be appreciated! So we broke up about a week ago...(last Thursday) I was sooo good and gave him NO CONTACt till he text messaged me on MOnday, and then got mad b/c I didn't text him back right away. He called me Thursday at work .... we chatted, it was good, and I had to go so he said he would call me later. He called me that night when I was going out... some of his friends were there, then he called me again. Well to say the least I got super super tipsy.... drunk dialed at 1am, he called me back at 1:01 am and i missed the call but then called him right back. I don' t remember what i said, but we were on the phone for only 2 minutes and i think I asked him to come and pick me up. He told me to put his friend on the phone who I think he told to take care of me, and who knows what else... I was sooo drunk! and now it has been 2 days and I am so sad to say he has not called me at all! He said he would call this weeked, but has not yet. So my question is, do I text or call and apologize for the drunk dialing??? Or do I just let it go? I don't think I said anything mean at all... but who knows. I would feel really bad if I did.... HELP PLEASE!
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Registered: 05-03-2005
Sun, 11-13-2005 - 7:32am
You should not be so embarrassed. We've all been there. Probably your ex has been there himself one time or another. I don't think you should call him though unless you want to try to work things out and get back together with him. (You didn't mention who broke up with whom). But there is no need to call to apologize.
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Registered: 10-03-2004
Sun, 11-13-2005 - 11:21am
Well it was sort of a mutual break up.... which happened in a heated argument over the phone. We were just never getting any time together and he was getting so mad a frustrated all the time.... he is just young, and does not handle his emotions well.....we had terrible communication. We work in the same school district and I am so worried I said something ???? I guess I am just super disappointed b/c we were going to get together and talk this weekend, and perhpas i was secretly hoping he had come to his senses and would have all these suggestions on how we could work. i mean he was the one who called me three times on Thursday, so I guess i had some hope. And now i Just feel like I totally drunk dialed and did the worst thing in the world. I am so worried he is mad a me and I just want to fix that. I just don't want to leave things in a bad way, I hate that sooo much. Sooooo.... everyone tells me NOT to call or text b/c I will look desperate???? Of course I still want to , and fix anything i May have done wrong the other night. ????
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Registered: 05-06-2003
Sun, 11-13-2005 - 12:09pm

Hi there,


First off, don't worry about it ... the whole situation is tough and I'm sure your ex understands what you're going through!


I am in agreement with Michele however, I would stick with the no contact for now. If he calls you, then apologize, but don't go out of your way to do so.


Please take care... let us know how you're doing!


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Registered: 10-03-2004
Sun, 11-13-2005 - 12:15pm
Thank you so much for your advice.... Gosh today is a hard day, I feel like I just want to cry because I screwed up the fact that we were going to get together and talk this weekend. I am trying sooo hard to take all of your advice and not call him. I just want to know if he will EVER call me again, or if I totally pissed him off. Such a bad feeling to think I was the one who did something wrong..... I have been so calm through all of this and now i Just feel like the biggest fool ever! If he really wanted me though, he would call, even though I did drunk dial right? Well thank you for your support sooo much! Still so embarrassed......
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Registered: 09-22-2005
Mon, 11-14-2005 - 1:46pm

Don't worry about the drunk dialing... it happens to all of us.

Nikki
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Registered: 05-06-2003
Mon, 11-14-2005 - 7:06pm
You are most welcome! Anytime you get the urge to call him- come here and post til your heart's content!

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