Emotional Yo-Yo

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Registered: 01-20-2005
Emotional Yo-Yo
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Sat, 11-19-2005 - 5:52pm
I've read so many of the posts to this board and see myself in so many. Like so many others, I want a quick fix to erase this tremendous pain and disappointment. There seems to be NO solace from it. I have a nice home, an aspiring career, and 2 beautiful children. Yet, as a result of a break up from an emotionally abusive marriage, I feel broken inside. I think it would be more bearable if I could crawl into a corner and sulk......for at least a month. How can I? I have 2 chidren, an 18 year old son in college and a 6 year old daughter.Both needing me in so many ways.I love my children dearly.As a result,I am determined to hold onto whatever meager strength that I can find within myself. This relationship has been a proverbial yo-yo for 6 years. We appear to be doing okay when all of sudden, there is a small eruption that results in another permanent break up.This last break up appears to be real....I guess. I don't understand why I continue to put myself and family through this agony. Perhaps someone out there has lived the answer.
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Registered: 09-29-2005
Sat, 11-19-2005 - 5:56pm

Thank goodness the yo yo stops for the kids...they cannot see Mom like this anymore. They deserve a Mom who has serenity and peace so their lives are rich and whole. What terrible vibes they must feel when the yo yo goes up and down. I should know, I left a terrible situation in 2000 for my kid. I didn't love myself enough to end it for me but I did for her..I realized she deserved MORE from me and I was her role model.

Best of luck..the pain is horrid..but it's time to end things..just think when is enough enough?