I finished it, now I want him back!
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I finished it, now I want him back!
| Tue, 11-22-2005 - 8:13am |
I split up with my boyfriend of 10 months because we weren't in love. There was a hell of a lot of chemistry between us, but after 10 months things were still the same as at month 1!! It felt like we weren't going anywhere. I wanted him to show me more affection and be more romantic, but he is quite a private person - not the type to do that sort of thing. So I ended it.
We are still very good friends, but I can't seem to stop thinking about him! Every time my phone rings or I have an e-mail I hope that it's him and I'm so disappointed when it's not! I still fancy him like crazy! I'm pretty sure he feels the same way. Would it be such a bad idea to try and get back together with him? And if I don't how can I stop feeling like this??!! It is driving me to distraction!
Any thoughts?
We are still very good friends, but I can't seem to stop thinking about him! Every time my phone rings or I have an e-mail I hope that it's him and I'm so disappointed when it's not! I still fancy him like crazy! I'm pretty sure he feels the same way. Would it be such a bad idea to try and get back together with him? And if I don't how can I stop feeling like this??!! It is driving me to distraction!
Any thoughts?

a girlie girl...
A curiosity question from PG:
Is your desire to get back together with the EX based on your loneliness? Or on the misconception that your "private boyfriend" is going to suddenly CHANGE and BECOME EMOTIONAL?
Ask yourself the above questions----HONESTLY.
Then ask yourself why he hasn't gone beyond being "just friends" with you?
Pianoguy
Hello Pianoguy!
I'm not lonely - I'm a very happy-go-lucky kinda chick. So it isn't that....
I realise that he's not going to become a different person if I start dating him again, though I suppose if I'm entirely honest deep down, I'm hoping that he'll suddenly realise what he's lost and become the knight in shining armour that I want! It's not going to happen I know!
I guess what it comes down to is that I get on with him so well as a friend and I'm lusting after him so badly that I'm considering giving it a go.... Bad idea??? I have no idea how to control the part of me that just goes into melt-down when I see him!!!!!! And avoiding him is difficult because we have lots of mutual friends.... (Think I've rambled aimlessly and not really answered your question, but I'm thinking out loud here!)
::I'm hoping that he'll suddenly realise what he's lost and become the knight in shining armour that I want!
It's normal to want that after a break-up. Our ego has a hard time accepting that it's not going to happen.
Great sex does not a relationship make. Maybe you should stay away from him (even as friends) until you don't lust after him anymore?
Carrie
xxx
Hello once again, a girlie girl!
Pianoguy pretty much agrees with itwinflame on the subject of LUST!
Personally...I think LUST is a wonderful trait to have! . Unfortunately, the after-effects of LUST are "LET DOWN & REALIZATION!"
Dealing with both can be 'absolutely brutal' for some of us!
Perhaps this is one BIG REASON why many women are confused about a man's behavior after the 'act' has been completed. What is often mistaken for "A WHOLE LOTTA LOVE" on her side...is often just an evening of ENDLESS LUST on his?
Pianoguy