ITS OVER
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ITS OVER
| Fri, 12-02-2005 - 7:11am |
He was divorced and still messed up. We started seeing eachother but he would make no commitments. It went on for a year with him telling me things that led me to believe it was just the timing. He finally ended it all and said it was more than timing and he hung up on me.
It was mainly a sexual relationship since he wouldn't give emotionally.
It was mainly a sexual relationship since he wouldn't give emotionally.

Hey there, I'm sorry you're having to go through this. I don't know why but I had the impression this had ended a while ago...but in any event, at least you know now that it's over for sure.
Someone who was right for you would never treat you like that...keep that firmly in mind as you move forward.
Sheri
Now he really ended things. Last time it was because he wasn't over his divorce and now he sounds like he hates me.
Sweetie, you can't take it personally. I'm sure he doesn't "hate" you, he's just too messed up to be in a relationship. But I know it hurts...I'm going through a situation with some similarities...I was in an LDR that I ended this summer, but then we started talking again because of the hurricane (he lived in New Orleans). We were talking about once a week or so, and I finally asked him what was up three weeks ago...was he in or out (of our relationship)? He made all the right noises about wanting a future together, coming up for a visit soon, blah, blah, blah...but he hasn't spoken to me since, and won't return my calls or emails. I've given up, but it hurts to have it end on such a bad note, after a year and a half. But I know it's HIM, not me...and hopefully you know that too.
Sheri
Now its really worse than I imagined. When he first pulled away I got physically sick and went to the hospital. This time I think it's for good because he said it was unhealthy what we were doing. And it was. He needed to be alone and I wanted him so it ends up being a sexual relationship with only me getting more attached to him. He was keeping himself from getting to emotional.
He knew I was in love with him and that's why he left. So I got extremely ill today and almost had to go to the hospital again. The stress takes over. Now I'm thinking I'm a codependent. Although I really did feel for him.
It sounds like some counseling would be a good idea to get you through this. Are you seeing a therapist?
Sheri
Hi!
I'm sorry you're in so much pain. Just wanted to make a point about therapy/counseling: it's not about being happy, it's about becoming more effective. If stress puts you in the hospital, or debilitates you to point that you're ill, then you need to learn some management techniques that will give you more control over your life.