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Registered: 11-19-2005
you will be SO proud of me!! read this!
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Sat, 12-03-2005 - 8:22am
okay, so i have not called him back since he called me. today i am coming out of the grocery store and i see him walking down the street towards me. we make eye contact but i pretend i don't see him and i quickly walk away. this is a big change from me who would usually stop to talk. Then i don't want to be on the street with him, so i duck into my bank, which by the way isn't his bank. i know he knew i saw him. what does he do. HE FOLLOWS ME INTO THE BANK. he is standing in the doorway staring at me. i STILL act busy like i can't see him. what does he do? he comes up and stands an inch behind me. i look up and say "hey" like i am unphased. he goes, "do you not want to talk to me? I mean i am in a rush anyway to get to daves office" i go, no, i do, hi. he says hi and then acts like he is in a rush and has to run. so he lingers there shocked i think that i had nothing to say. and keeps looking back. i DID NOT look in his direction. anyway, i feel so good. usually i would stop and talk to him if i saw him but instead i acted like i didn't see him even though he knows i did. WHY did he follow me into the bank?? he could have just kept walking safely and avoiding me. WHY follow me, stand behind me? someone please tell me why?
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Registered: 03-01-2005
Sat, 12-03-2005 - 9:55am
Who is he?
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Registered: 10-28-2005
Sat, 12-03-2005 - 10:19am
sorry, it was for those of you following my other posts which are still on here under my screen name. you can look at them but i will tell you, he is my ex bf who dumped me after a year and a half. definately read my other posts. it was such a sad break up. he has a lot of issues. he said he lovs me more then anything, but knows rationally we can't be together because we are too different. i was the first woman he ever loved. he hurt me so badly. i posted that i drunk dialed him the other night. he called me the next day to "check" on me, see how i was, i didn't answer nor did i call back. then when he could have avoided me, he followed me into the bank....why? why? why say you aren't ready to talk and then deliberately choose to follow me just because he knew i saw him and pretended not to. its like now that i don't care (or at least pretend i don't) he does
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Sat, 12-03-2005 - 1:04pm

Why? Ego, guilt, or a combination of the two. In any event, the why doesn't matter.

You did well to not engage him in conversation, but the pretending not to see him part was childish. Just acknowledge him with a nod and go on your merry way next time...no need to play silly games.

Sheri

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Registered: 11-19-2005
Sat, 12-03-2005 - 1:23pm
Hey i've come to the conclusion its a man ego thing. They don't want to admitt that they are losers and obviously he doesn't want to admitt that you have moved on. Like i said a man EGO thing.
Kudo's to you girl. You are one strong cookie. Keep it up!!!