i need all your input and advice!!

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Registered: 08-30-2005
i need all your input and advice!!
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Mon, 12-05-2005 - 5:48am
i had posted a few times on this board a while back ...3 weeks ago my ex called and told me he got engaged and wanted to invite me to his engagement party and he even had the nerve to tell me if i was sincere about how sorry i was when were fighting ..then he would postpone the party ...he had called me once last week and left no message...then yesterday he called me and left me a message....he said...he is not engaged anymore and beg me to call him back...he even used the word PLEASE!!!i know he will call again .i am tired of explaining things to him anymore..please any advice..i know consiously i am fighting a losing battle with him...i want it to stop!!
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Registered: 12-02-2005
Mon, 12-05-2005 - 12:28pm
I am sorry to hear what your going through. But please do yourself a favor. Don't call him and don't pick up when he calls. To me it sounds like he's playing games with you. You guys broke up before a your own reasons, and if you get back together, you'll end up going through this again for the same reasons. Don't do that to yourself! Please DON'T! I know it hurts to be strong like that but you have to do this for you. You owe it to yourself. But you are doing good so far by not picking up the phone, I applaude you for that. You're doing good, you've come this far, don't give up. I hope this helps.
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Registered: 08-04-2003
Mon, 12-05-2005 - 2:42pm

So he calls you to say he's engaged, having an engagement party, invites you, BUT if you will say you are sorry, he will call it off. What kind of cr@p is that? That's mind games at the fullest. You are to blame for him getting engaged. You have the power to have him call it off. Did he just want to make you jealous and made up the story or is there a real woman involved and if so, how terrible of him to use her and treat her this way.

Block his number, get a new cell number, something, anything so you don't have to deal with him.


Carrie

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Registered: 08-30-2005
Tue, 12-06-2005 - 12:21pm
Thank you soo very much for your advices...not only he has been playing with my emotions ..he takes no blame of his own actions...i sincerely believe he used the engagement BS to get me beg him for his egos..or he just simply enjoys getting his rocks off by hurting me..or even another woman's feelings..why would i want someone like that..i am almost embarrassed to tell people i am 15 years his senior and not knowing how to stand my grounds and being played by an inmature little boy..he turned 31 two months ago..met him when he was 28. my closest friends all said being that i am older and wiser i should of know better..but when it comes to the matter of the hearts it hurts so bad when u fell in love with someone for the wrong reasons...i am trying so hard to totally let him go and move forward with my life.i had changed my cell number twice because of him but now i am going to change both my cell and my home numbers...its a price to pay but it will worth the pain not having to deal with him..god..he has major issues.everyone on this board are GREAT!!to give supports and be here for everyone..THanks for letting me vent.
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Registered: 11-28-2005
Tue, 12-06-2005 - 12:37pm

He considers you like a toy - he plays at times, throws at times, ignores at times - but he's not involved with the toy for the benefit of the toy.

Simple...quit explaining yourself attempting to validation, approval, or affirmation from someone who thinks you being down and squirming is "your place".

Stop talking to him period...there's no respect or admiration of character on either side - why affiliate at all.

Erin
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