i saw him tonight......

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Registered: 11-17-2005
i saw him tonight......
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Sun, 12-11-2005 - 11:06pm
I just need to vent. About 2 weeks ago I posted how i had broken up with my bf, becasue i had the feeling that he was cheating on me with this other girl and how he always stood me up and lied about his bussiness trips. Well I did break up with him that time but i broke down and whent to his house. We made up and decided to give it another try (i know stupid of me) but of course not even a day had gone by and he was back to his old ways so we got in to a fight last sunday (he once again stood me up) we were actually just text messaging back and for and all he said was "then lets just stop this" and that was it. so the next day he was suppose to give me some money so i went to pick it up at his work and he gave it to me and he told me that if i wanted to talk i should just email and we will set a time. so i did, becasue i love him right? but he never responded, so i text message him and he never responded. So i figured that, that was it he was done with me. So today i went to the mall and guess who i ran in to, him....with that girls kids. we were walking right next to each other without knowing so when i turned there he was and all i said was "is good to know you are doing well" and he just looked at me like saying "oh well" and didnt even say a word so i just kept on walking. I just cant believe that i ran in to him......and i am hurting so much. but i know that i am better without him, i know but it still doesnt stop hurting. how can someone that a week ago was telling you how much they love you and how much you mean to them, can look you in the eye like they havent done anything wrong? why do people hurt other people without a reason? i dont understand.
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Registered: 09-22-2005
Mon, 12-12-2005 - 5:28pm

This is just my opinion, but personally, I think that anyone who is capable of being so plain out cruel to another person has some real problems.

Nikki
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Registered: 12-10-2005
Wed, 12-21-2005 - 3:38pm
it's a yucky feeling isn't it? I wish we could take happy pills too, make them all disappear just like that. Life just doesn't work like that, it's harder than that. I guess in a way that is good, it's just hard to see that when we're hurting in the moment. Stop trying to understand how he thinks - I did that for years and am STILL doing it now and all that does is drive you crazy. Do you want to be nuts like me?! LOL I'm so lost now I need professional help to get back on track and start living again instead of being a zombie. The hardest part for me to accept is the letting go part, I just can't seem to let go all the way. I know that on the weekend I was close to suicidal but I picked up the phone and called a friend and told her I was having panic/anxiety attacks. That little bit of time she took out of her day to talk to me calmed me down enough to help me make it through the weekend.
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Registered: 12-14-2005
Wed, 12-21-2005 - 11:50pm
thank you for your kind response. actually the day after i saw him at the mall i found out that for the 7 months that we were together he had had a girlfriend. they have been together for a year and a half and so in other words i was the other woman. the day i saw him at the mall she was there with him, but had gone to a store without him. guess this whole story turned up worse then it was.
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Registered: 12-10-2005
Thu, 12-22-2005 - 3:24pm
I'm so sorry that you had to find out that you were deceived the whole time :( You must feel awful and I don't blame you. You didn't know he was already attached, he deceived you and he's deceiving the woman he's been/is with. When you recover from this fallout you'll see him as the lying cheat he is and hopefully learn to read the red flags avoid men like him in the future.