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I don't know what to do
| Wed, 03-21-2007 - 6:52pm |
Hey everyone, this whole thing is new to me but i have noone to talk to because the only person i trust ..... well we're not on good terms right now.
I found a txt msg that he sent to a mutual friend...he was drunk and said that is the only reason he txted her and said how much he loved her wanted to kiss her and thought she was hot...i want to know what you ladies think i should do.
We've been together for 4 yrs and i love him...he is the only perosn in my life that beleives in me and loves me, he told me he was sorry and that he wants to be better...but i don't trust him because i found out that he has a "crush" on her....(he told me).. i'm in a bad way and just really need someone to talk to....
thanks for listening
I found a txt msg that he sent to a mutual friend...he was drunk and said that is the only reason he txted her and said how much he loved her wanted to kiss her and thought she was hot...i want to know what you ladies think i should do.
We've been together for 4 yrs and i love him...he is the only perosn in my life that beleives in me and loves me, he told me he was sorry and that he wants to be better...but i don't trust him because i found out that he has a "crush" on her....(he told me).. i'm in a bad way and just really need someone to talk to....
thanks for listening

Welcome to the board pixiechick,
Drinking does not excuse what he did. If he's got a crush on her, he needs to deal with what he feels is missing between you and him.
I was with someone for over four years. three years into it, he told me he thought it would be best to go our separate ways because he couldn't be who i needed him to be. so i moved out in october of 05. but after a few months, he was begging me to move back in in Jan of 06. so i did. things didn't change. and in May of 06, i moved out again for some drama that had happened, not with us, with me. I find out after i moved out that during the time we were on our break, he was seeing someone else (this started before i moved out so he was setting the stage for a new chapter in his life while still sleeping with me who had no clue while we were living apart) who he worked with and it didn't work out. He denies to this day and makes excuses for it. I went almost a whole year with that in the back of my mind, tearing me up and making me question EVERYTHING he said and did. it was total hell. don't do that to yourself. no matter how drunk someone is, and i have been hammered beyond belief, if you really love someone, there is NO excuse for that kind of behavior. it will be hard, yes you have invested four years of your life into someone, but the sooner you break away, the sooner you will heal. i wish to god i didn't get back with him or else i would not be on these boards now but i did and i have to live with that. don't explain away what happened. there is no excuse for it.
Edited 3/22/2007 10:56 am ET by nuthinbutachick
Hi pixiechick:
::everything i have i have because of him, everything in my future i have because of him
He can't be your everything - your happiness, source of good/love, etc. that's a huge burden to put on someone.