Feeling hopeless today...

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Registered: 03-03-2007
Feeling hopeless today...
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Thu, 03-22-2007 - 12:00pm

I'm bad today...feelings of sadness and my hope to get over this and find someone else has gone away. I just don't feel like I'll ever get past him and find someone who will love me. My ex "hates" me (as he has told me) and I can't figure out why. Is it because I won't move on? Or is it because it's easier for him to say that he hates me?

No matter how many of my friends and strangers tell me that I am better off without him, pretty, successful, smart, etc...I don't see it and don't quite believe them. If I am all of these "great" things, why does my ex not want to be with me and why does he dislike me so much? All my friends are starting to be in these long-term relationships and I really don't have any more single friends. I feel like I'm the ONLY one not in a relationship and not happy. Even my roommate who I've been relating to because she just broke up with her boyfriend is considering giving him another chance (he was an ok boyfriend to her).

I feel pretty hopeless today....

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Registered: 01-05-2007
Thu, 03-22-2007 - 1:15pm
i have followed your posts and want you to know that i am feeling exactly the same way. i know better and yet this thing has completely taken over my thoughts, my hope, and all i feel is anxiety and hurt and pain. i really wonder how someone gets this much power over you. i want mine back so bad, and everything i have read on how to do the no contact and wait to see if they come back and all that wait stuff is driving me crazy. the difference with my situation is that he is ignoring me. i keep pushing for a way for closure and for him to commit to wanting me to leave him alone, but all i get is ignoring. i want to move on but i can't. i think i will accept better if he tells me. but then i know he may never do it so do i accept due to the ignore, or push to have the closure. i know don't tell me i am strong and to do it on my own. the problem is i can't.
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Registered: 03-08-2007
Thu, 03-22-2007 - 1:41pm
yeah i'm in the same place today. in part because last night i went out with a guy who i thought i'd really like but ended up having absolutely no physical attraction to. he seemed pretty into me, though, so now i'm stuck feeling bad because it isn't mutual, and also because it makes me miss my ex. this absolutely sucks, and normally i try to stay pretty positive.
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Registered: 01-05-2007
Thu, 03-22-2007 - 1:47pm
if i could get the final words then i could at least try to move on. did your's tell you or just silence? reason i'm asking is cause mine hasn't been good in a long time and i just can't let go. i am smart, but we are talking heart now not brain. i hate feeling this way.
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Registered: 03-03-2007
Thu, 03-22-2007 - 2:27pm

He gave me final words...said things like, "leave me alone" "we're done" "i don't want a relationship with you"

All very hurtful things. The thing is, I didn't even do anything to him....

I'm sorry but this really sucks! I want so badly to call him up and plead with him. I have so many questions. It SO hard being strong!