Relapsed and disappointed

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Registered: 03-17-2007
Relapsed and disappointed
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Thu, 03-22-2007 - 8:10pm

After one week of NC, this afternoon I forwarded my ex an email I received (just happened to get this email today). I didn't say anything, just forwarded it. When I read it, I was like "he should read this" and then as soon as I hit the "send" button, I thought "shoot--why did I just do this?!?". I feel disappointed in myself. It was almost an automatic reaction. Do you think this is really terrible or am I over-reacting? Oh well, for what it's worth, I thought everyone else might enjoy the email I forwarded...

"Apples and Wine"

"Women are like apples on trees. The best ones are on top of the tree. Most men don't want to reach for the good ones because they are afraid of falling and getting hurt. Instead, they sometimes take the apples from the ground that aren't as good, but easy. The apples at the top think something is wrong with them, when in reality, they're amazing. They just have to wait for the right man to come along, the one who is brave enough to climb all the way to the top of the tree.

Now men...men are like a fine wine. They begin as grapes, and it's up to women to stomp the *@!% out of them until they turn into something acceptable to have dinner with.""

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Registered: 03-08-2007
Thu, 03-22-2007 - 9:36pm
i've done the exact same thing before, and felt the same way. to feel better, i literally made up a plausible story for myself about it, like, "whoops, i was forwarding that to someone else in my address book and clicked on his by accident, and that's what he'll think happened, too." maybe that sounds nuts, but it made me feel better. stopped me from thinking that i was being pathetic or that HE'D think i was reaching out somehow....hey, whatever works during this crappy time, ya know?
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Registered: 07-11-2006
Thu, 03-22-2007 - 9:48pm
Awww..don't beat yourself up over that. At least you didn't email him anything personal. In one of my little attempts to win the ex back, I fowarded him some poetry he had written for me. When he wrote back and asked me why I sent those back to him, I said "Well, you DID write them, so, I sent them to you before I deleted them. You can send them to the next girl. They don't mean anything to me anymore." Being mean to him just set me back, of course. I felt good for a minute or two, but no more. Do you think it would help if you deleted his email address out of your email list, address book, get rid of anything that would make it easy for you to contact him? Forgive yourself for this VERY tiny slip, and do your best to not do it again. Take care.