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| Sun, 03-25-2007 - 3:39pm |
My boyfriend of 3 months and I broke up last night. It wasn't a shock to me since I'd been getting a little irritated with what was happening lately. Nevertheless, there were some great things about him that I really enjoyed.
This is my ump-teenth breakup in the last few years, so whenever my relationship ends, I make a list of things that I know I'll miss and things that I know I won't. I find writing things down means that I have to spend less energy remembering them later because, well, I've written them down.
Here's what I've got so far for Jeff:
What I'll miss:
*unbelievably incredible sex. I mean, it was just unreal
*our mutual love of pizza and beer
What I won't miss:
*those horribly boring talks about DNA and RNA and transcriptase and nucleotides and rhizobia and all that other boring stuff I tried so hard to remember
*how he quit running and exercising after we became a couple
*he wanting me to learn to play "Clair de Lune"
*not brushing his teeth before bed
*the dirty apartment
*the dysfunctional toilet (I was scared to do #2 because it wouldn't flush!)
*he was a graduate student who exercised no fiscal responsibility when he ate pizza every day for at least two meals (I am not joking about this, people.)
*his judgement of and picking at other people ("she seemed to use the word utilitarian a lot")
*how alone I felt in the conversation we had on the coast right after one of my best friends was killed
*how he never amazed me
*how much he changed after he got comfortable in our relationship and totally disengaged
*paying for everything
*never getting to see him even though we only live an hour apart
*he will probably never take a vacation, especially if it doesn't involve working
You'll see, girls. Your "won't miss" list will eventually be longer than your "will miss" one.
Here's to freedom!
Stephanie

Hi montylover,
Thanks for posting your list.
Stephanie
All I have to say is You Rock.
Thanks!