Haven't seen/called/emailed in 30 days.
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Haven't seen/called/emailed in 30 days.
| Mon, 03-26-2007 - 8:56pm |
(I don't think the email he fowarded counted. That wasn't my fault, and I did not respond, even though I wanted too.)So, if I can handle thirty solid days of nc, I can handle thirty more. And, thirty more after that....For all of you who have made it through, how long did it take you to get over the person?

Hi alittleafraid,
Getting over someone varies from person-to-person and depends on a few factors, like how long the relatonship lasted and how willing we are to go through the grieving process.
Hopefully a few people will tell you how they feel now.
Congrats on 30 days! What have you been up to in the mean time, if you don't mind me asking? Getting out with friends at all or meeting other people? Reading or writing?
I'm curious because I'm hoping that getting out and doing those sorts of things will help with the getting-over process. I'm at 23 days, and I've been making a pretty conscious effort to meet other people, spend more time with my brother, spend more time doing things I didn't do when I was with my ex-bf. I think that's helped me, at least I'm not uncontrollably sad all the time, though I do have my moments.
I see alot of being asking how long it takes to get over a person. I think it's because people are hoping if there is a certain amount of time and if they reach it, they will stop hurting. I'm sorry to tell you this but there is no fixed about of time to get over someone. The good news is eventually WILL get over this ordeal. This process depends on you. Allow yourself to grieve over this, cry when you want to, think about him if you want to but don't indulge yourself on this. You should also continue going about your life, don't let this set you back on whatever you're trying to achieve in life. Don't let this one episode in your life run you. You will get over this but part of you will remember him because he was part of your life once. You learned from that relationship and it made you into a stronger person. Like they say what doesn't kill you makes you stronger.
Some days will hurt more than others but in time, as slow as it may seem you'll recover from this. And you will be at the other end giving advise to someone who is going through a breakup. By that time you're probably with your prince charming or in the arms of your husband, and this painful episode in your life will be nothing more than a lesson learned and a memory. Look forward to that day, continue to live your life to the fullest and enjoy it.