Missing Her.....a phase?

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Registered: 05-04-2006
Missing Her.....a phase?
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Thu, 03-29-2007 - 8:51pm

It's really hard today...2 weeks ZERO contact and am now being filled with self-doubt, regret, sadness, wondering should I contact her, knowing she has a new guy, realizing things were said by both of us that shouldn't have been said...wondering if there could ever be a chance, realizing that there probably isn't.

Do these feelings just fade?

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Registered: 03-23-2007
Thu, 03-29-2007 - 8:57pm

The wondering... the missing her.... these fade.

But at some point, a long time in the future, when you are truly over her there may be a chance to apologize for the things that need to be apologized for.

But right now is not the the time.

You will stop missing her eventually. And there will still be hours, or even days that all you can do it miss her. But find things that offer distraction and focus on yourself and whatever it is that is important to you....

Good Luck.

Kat

my website: http://www.saveakat.com

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Registered: 07-11-2006
Thu, 03-29-2007 - 10:46pm
I've had one month of nc so far, and I STILL feel the way you do. It's especially hard when I'm by myself. I feel so lonely sometimes, I think the only way to make myself feel better IS to contact him. As painful as it is, we need to keep telling ourselves that they broke up with us for a reason. They don't love us anymore, or, they don't love us in the way we need and deserve to be loved by the one we are with. It's so hard to accept when we love them with all of our hearts.
I think the feelings fade little by little. I don't think there will ever be a day that we wake up, and think "Oh, cool. I'm SO over (insert name.)" But there will come a day when we don't think about them as much as we are now, and eventually, we won't think of them at all. Then, someone else will come along, and the other person is nothing more than some faded memories.
So, hang in there. I know it isn't fun, but know that it won't always be this way.