so i changed my number...

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Registered: 03-21-2007
so i changed my number...
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Thu, 03-29-2007 - 11:35pm

i posted a few times on here and the jist of it is 2 and half year relationship. he broke up with me and only said he needs to be alone right now and is not ready for a relationship. of course he said this after a stupid fight we had.

soo i didnnt call him at all afterwards, then he texted me just simple questions. than called me 3 times a few days later so i waited as long as i could to call him back and we talked nicely for 45 minutes. he said he wants to see me and talk to me but basically hes still not ready. i told him i dont know and we hung up nicely. then a few days later i got all upset and texted him not to contact me anymore cause it just makes it harder and i wanna move on.

few days pass he texts me he doesnt wanna say goodbye. i dont answer...next day he writes this

"hi i know u dont want to talk to me but i cant end us like this. i feel so bad for what i did but i didnt know how to handle it. it kills me that well never see each other. i know we cant be together but i wish there was another way. i cant tell u how sorry i am. i just hope one day u could forgive me for the pain i put US through. im sorry but i had to get that off my chest."

so i didnt answer and angrily i changed my number...someone anyone please give me advice
what did his text mean? is it totally wrong that i changed my number? will it make him if he was ever gonna change his mind make him not want to??
anything will help...im still soooooooooo heartbroken

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Registered: 07-11-2006
Fri, 03-30-2007 - 12:14pm
No, you should not feel bad for changing your number. You had to do what's best for you. After all, he's doing what's best for him, right?
And I probably sound like a broken record when I say this, but that text meant he doesn't want you to be angry with him and see him as the bad guy, he wants to think that he didn't hurt you so he can feel satisfied with himelf and move on. Well, since HE broke up with you, it's not your job to help his ego anymore.
I'm sorry for repeating myself constantly, but this just makes me SO mad!!! They don't want to be with us anymore, why can't they just leave us alone? Reminding us of what we no longer have almost borders on mental cruelty.
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Fri, 03-30-2007 - 1:03pm

Hi Kisses,


Here's links to your old posts so others can catch

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Registered: 10-22-2004
Fri, 03-30-2007 - 1:27pm
I know it's a hard decision to make, but changing the number is a really drastic move to get on with your life, and there's nothing wrong with making that move. You have to do what's best for you, and if that meant, changing the number, then so be it. I did that, and sometimes I regret it, because I had my cell phone number for a long time. But I felt it was the only way to move on, because I just didn't want him to contact me years down the road, because you know, they pop up later on, when you have really moved on. So I guaranteed to myself, he can never call me, and if he does, it's only because God allowed it to happen. So you will be ok, and it's really a sign you want to move on. Your going to be ok, but don't go and contact him with your new number. You would be slapping yourself in the face. One thing you need to remember, he will try and contact you some other way. He knows, you don't want to talk to him by changing the number, so that might drive him a little crazy. Be careful, and stick to your guns.....Take care