Progress Report.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-23-2006
Progress Report.
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Sun, 04-01-2007 - 2:24pm
It’s been a while since I posted here. I’m reaching 5 months NC. The euphoria at reaching each month has died down. I know this is THE STATUS now. During that time I’ve learnt to be alone, learnt to find happiness by myself, doing solitary activities. One of my biggest lessons has been about what love is. Love isn’t attachment. To everyone who is in sorrow and is upset, instead of focusing on the neediness of your unfullfillment, realize that you had a chance to experience love. And that’s why you are grieving. Your tears aren’t a DEFEAT – they are gratitude for having experienced love. We are closest to being happy when loving someone else and that’s why this heartache and hurt coz that has been taken away from us.
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-21-2003
Sun, 04-01-2007 - 4:19pm
Kudos to you girl! It seems that you've made great progress in these 5 months. You're right when saying that only you can make yourself happy and healthy. Being by yourself will allow you to get to know yourself and know what you want, set and enforce boudaries and become a healthy human being. Aftre you've done this work then you can think in sharing yourself with another person. Only then you'll be able to carry on a healthy relationship wihout the drama and "attachment"; hopefully the man will be healthy as well. Keep up the good work!