I completely understand where you are coming from.
My ex boyfriend is doing the same things. He tell me he loved me and misses me and wants me. He says he thinks of nothing else. But he wont be with me. He wont talk to me on the phone or even see me. He wants me to hold on and hang on to his kind words even though and can't offer me anthing.
Me and you both deserve someone that will want and appreciate us. I know how hard it is to recover from a breakup when you don't have much else to distract yourself or to throw yourself into. Maybe getting a partime job would be good for you. Something to get your mind off the boy and some extra cash.
Right now I am very focused on getting myself ouf of debt and don't want to spend money on much of anything. That leaves my ability to distract myself with very few options. I work as much as i can, I Have that blockbuster online thing where I can have as many movies as I want to comfort and distract me through the sometimes very tough nights. It is hard, because parties, drinking, going out to eat with friends are all great distractions but cost me money i am not willing to spend. I am trying to leanr to enjoy the alone time. I read, I organize recipes, I write letters to people I have lost touch with.... I read and post on message boards...
Just give yourself time. But I don't belive this guy is worth your time. He obviously cares very little for your feeling and your needs. He is only putting himself first and maybe there will be a time in the future when your relationship with him can grow, but right now does not sound like the time. Good luck sweetie.
Hi kisses,
I'm so glad you have this wonderful community to help you deal with your relationship problems.
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Hugs to you
Kisses,
I completely understand where you are coming from.
My ex boyfriend is doing the same things. He tell me he loved me and misses me and wants me. He says he thinks of nothing else. But he wont be with me. He wont talk to me on the phone or even see me. He wants me to hold on and hang on to his kind words even though and can't offer me anthing.
Me and you both deserve someone that will want and appreciate us. I know how hard it is to recover from a breakup when you don't have much else to distract yourself or to throw yourself into. Maybe getting a partime job would be good for you. Something to get your mind off the boy and some extra cash.
Right now I am very focused on getting myself ouf of debt and don't want to spend money on much of anything. That leaves my ability to distract myself with very few options. I work as much as i can, I Have that blockbuster online thing where I can have as many movies as I want to comfort and distract me through the sometimes very tough nights. It is hard, because parties, drinking, going out to eat with friends are all great distractions but cost me money i am not willing to spend. I am trying to leanr to enjoy the alone time. I read, I organize recipes, I write letters to people I have lost touch with.... I read and post on message boards...
Just give yourself time. But I don't belive this guy is worth your time. He obviously cares very little for your feeling and your needs. He is only putting himself first and maybe there will be a time in the future when your relationship with him can grow, but right now does not sound like the time. Good luck sweetie.
Kat
www.saveakat.com
Edited 8/2/2007 1:18 pm ET by kisses4221