I NEED ADVICE

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Registered: 04-08-2007
I NEED ADVICE
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Sun, 04-08-2007 - 7:10pm

hi im 17 and my boyfriend of 1 week broke up with me 2 weeks ago(yeah i know 1 week...2weeks ago)well i still stuck on him real bad.

Well this is the story..
Its was about a couple days before he asked me out and my friend told me that he asked her to talk to me about if i wanted to go to prom with him and i told her i dont know and ill think about it. then about 2 or 3 days later he asked me out and i said sure b/c all i knew him was like a friend and i wanted to know if i really liked him and after that date i figured out that i had mad feelings for him and i asked him to my prom and i said i will go to his. Then 2 days later we got together out side my house i asked so do we go out and he said i like to think so and thats where it all started.

Well we spent basically everyday together for hours at a time until he broke up with me and i thought we were on the same page b/c he said he was lucky to have me and i felt the same way. We liked the same stuff and we did have a couple differences but you know your not going to be the same through and through and i loved that we were the same as we were different. Well the day he broke up with me was a usual day we have together: we go to school, see each other through out the day and he hangs with his friends until i get home and comes and sees me. but today he had told me that he might not make it to my house b/c he was going with his friends after school and i was fine with that b/c im not going to keep him from his friends, just like i dont want him to keep me from mine. well i had got home and i usually take my phone out of my bag and i forgot that day and it was still on vibrate b/c i aint alowed to have it on at school. well i didnt hear my phone at all when he called me so he left a message just like anyone else would and i listened to the message and he said that he wasnt going to make it to my house and i thought that was it but then the message went on saying how he thought that he needed a break and he thought we were different people and he will be out all the time and we wont see much of each other.

Well the first time i listened to the message and i couldnt stand to hear it so i hung up and then i told myself i had to listen to it and then i called him back and i couldnt even say anything to him b/c i was so upset. we really didnt talk about it that much b/c he had an incoming call on his cell from his mom and he said he would call me back but he never did. Ever since then he barely says anything to me and somenights i cry my self to sleep b/c i miss him so much. i still think there is more he isnt telling me but im not sure.

So my question is..could there be something more that he's not or afraid to tell me? If he could still like me but afraid of showing it b/c i still like him alot and im afraid to tell him. see ive told one our friends that i still like him but it dosent help b/c i want to tell him that.
I also want to know why he would break up with me after 1 week thinking that we are to different people, knowing that we have so much in common and lots of people know you cant really know somebody after 1 week. and if afraid we aint going to be able to see each other b/c he goes out with his friends then why cant he cut back on going with them so much.

Sorry that i wrote so long. to understand everything you need to know the beginning before the relationship.

So if anybody can help me, please help.

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Registered: 06-22-2006
In reply to: a7x__rocks
Mon, 04-09-2007 - 12:01am

Very sorry about the drama in your life right now. Things just probably became "too much" of everything for him: time, effort, how fast it all went, etc. It's also very possible he met someone else.

Just give yourself a little bit of time and focus your attention on your friends, your activities, your schoolwork.

Good thing about these burn-out-quick situations is that they're fairly quick and simple to get over and move on.

Best of luck to you!

~~.: Sandra :.~~


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Registered: 04-08-2007
In reply to: a7x__rocks
Mon, 04-09-2007 - 12:37pm
Thank you for your advice its helps a little. even though i still like him i know now that i need to try to move on. But thank you again for all your help.