Gee, and i thought i was over him

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Registered: 03-06-2007
Gee, and i thought i was over him
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Mon, 04-09-2007 - 2:15am

well if you read my previous posts, my story is about some guy/co-worker who basically initiated a relationship and then left me for some one else. well tonight (after 2 great weeks of not even seeing him at work)i had to work my 8 hour shift with him. i kno it may sound wrong, but i am determined to not talk to this guy ever again even if i do work with him. he treated me badly and the way i see (and everyone else agrees) i am not going to let him get away with disrespecting me and think that he can talk to me. it just doesn't work that way.

i went into work all happy and dancing to music, talking to everyone else but him (not mean or anything just not really noticing his presence. i guess my co-worker was talking to him about my change in school major, so he tried to make some light comment about it, expecting me to talk to him. i had my headphones on and pretended to not hear him, but he kept calling my name, so i answered with an abrupt "yes" and went on to my dancing. i watched movies and had conversations with my other co worker for the rest of the night, people were constantly complimenting me on how good i looked and my ex was cleary making a conscious effort to not be affected by my presence.

i thought i was over this whole ordeal until he kept going in the back to talk to his new gf. luckily he speaks russian so i didn't understand him, but it still bothered me. i kno that im not over him just basically "replacing" me and lining her up before we even broke up. i even gave him the opportunity to go home early, but he stayed until the end. i don't kno, i just can't stand his presence anymore.

i don't kno why he keeps tryin to talk to me like we are friends. i even wrote him two days after our break up taht we didn't have to be friends just b-cuz he felt bad and he replied " no you are my good friend". maybe it's just because i was the one to completely cut him off by deleting him from my friends lists and not talking to him and it hurt his ego (no clue) so, all in all it was a very long night. i cried on my way home. i just didn't hink that it would still bother me andhe doesn't even care. it's weird how we go from such good friends to a relationship and then "this". i wish that we hadn't started this relationship and that he would have just left me alone (in terms of romantic possibility) because we had a really good friendship and now it's a shame at what we have done with it.

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Registered: 06-12-2004
Tue, 04-10-2007 - 9:55pm

I can understand what you are going through. My ex and I were friends for about a month or two before we started dating. I was actually dating two guys him and one other guy at the same time. They both knew about the other one. Anyway I have found myself missing him as a friend occasionally. I really wish things had ended differently, he essentially did the same thing to me that your ex did to you. I think we could have been good friends if we wouldn't have had more. But he chose to throw that all away for a temporary relationship, she is leaving for law school at the end of the semester. I still have another year of school left.

I have a class once a week with my ex so I have to see him 3 more times before the end of the semester. I am really looking forward to not having to see him anymore!

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Registered: 11-14-2006
Wed, 04-11-2007 - 10:28am
I would suggest not to obviously ignore him. Treat him as if NOTHING ever happened between the two of you. That means dont go out of your way to talk to him or ignore him and be polite but not overly friendly.