Will I ever get over him???
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Will I ever get over him???
| Mon, 04-09-2007 - 7:48pm |
There is this guy that broke up with me 5 months ago and he was my first love and I lost my vaginity (sp?) to him. My sister says I will never get over him unless I don't see him anymore. We see each other almost every weekend. We we are together then we are pretty much like boyfriend-girlfriend but when we aren't together we aren't like boyfriend-girlfriend. I cry every time I see him. Is there a way I can get over him or atleast stop loving him so much. I feel like he is holding me back from loving or even getting a new boyfriend. I have been single ever since we broke up.

First of all, there is absolutely nothing wrong with being single for 5 months. Being single can be a good thing--it gives you a chance to learn about yourself and grow, a chance to connect with your friends, a chance to find new interests . . . these are all good things. I'm not sure how old you are, but if you're still in school, it gives you a chance to focus on your studies and begin thinking about what you want for your future. So, when you can, enjoy your single days, weeks, months, and years--any single time is good time for you!!
If he broke up with you, how come you are still together on weekends? If you are together like boyfriend and girlfriend every weekend, you're giving him all the benefits of dating you without requiring him to claim you. That's not being fair to yourself. Letting go and leaving is much, much easier said than done. So, my advice to you might be to just open your eyes and be real with yourself about what is happening and begin realizing that you deserve more. And when you are ready, you will walk away. Men who do not respect you really are not worth your time, don't fall into that trap of thinking otherwise.
I know it doesn't seem like it right now, because he is the only guy in the world for you at this point (I remember my first sexual experience, so I know this to be true!!) but there will be other loves in your future. And they will be different and BETTER. And once you begin respecting yourself, you will attract guys who respect you too!!
Chin up. You will get over him. It'll just take some more time.
Welcome to the board natnat_92,
Since you HAVE to see him when he comes to family gatherings, it does mean you have to fall back into the role of 'girlfriend'.
Ok, so I'm kinda in the same boat as you, so I'll tell you what has and has not worked for me.