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can't get over him
| Sat, 04-14-2007 - 4:55pm |
I can't seem to get over this guy that I do have feelings for, especially since he was the first guy I slept with or even kissed for that matter. I'm 32 now and was 31 when we first had sex. We're not and have never been in a relationship. We had sex a total of six times now. The first time was in late 2005 and then again about a month later. I then didn't see him, only chatted online, for another 6 months when we had sex again within a two week period. We also went out for dinner those two times before going back to his place. I would stay the night with him. I was way over my head by then and felt so much for him, when apparently he didn't feel much of anything for me. Sex was all he had on his mind. I think he also liked the fact that I was a virgin before sleeping with him. Ok, so two more months go by with us chatting. I would hint about going to a movie or something but he wouldn't go for it. Anyway, after these two months passed, late one night while chatting he asks me if he could pick me up at my place and we'd go and have sex at his. I did because I really liked him. Sex apparently makes me feel very close to that person, now I know. Ok, this is where you'll be thinking to yourself, "what is wrong with this woman?". After I moved from my parents' house to my own apartment, it took him 7 months to come to see my place and we had sex again. That was 3 weekends ago now. I never stopped liking him or wanting to see him again. That was my problem. He told me that he was seeing somebody before this but I assumed he broke up with her since he was there with me. I found out he didn't break up with her but he says they're not serious at all. He just dates her but it's been going on for about 9 months or so. I email him pretty well every weekend asking if he wants to come over again, even just to talk, but he avoids answering me. He'll respond but not answer my question.
So do you think I'm totally insane or what? I'm having such a hard time with this. It seems like it's always when it's convenient for him and not me and I've always had a hard time figuring out what he's thinking or wants. Am I crazy?
Edited 4/14/2007 6:48 pm ET by spring_fling
So do you think I'm totally insane or what? I'm having such a hard time with this. It seems like it's always when it's convenient for him and not me and I've always had a hard time figuring out what he's thinking or wants. Am I crazy?
Edited 4/14/2007 6:48 pm ET by spring_fling

>>Sex apparently makes me feel very close to that person, now I know<<
That's what sex is, especially if you've done it several times with someone. Some women can separate the act from the intimacy, bless them, but you weren't prepared for that kind of connection. That's why it might be best to just stop. You don't want to ruin your view of sex and intimacy for the next person or even for him if it works out that way. Good luck its not an easy thing to do but there is nothing wrong with you. Love, sex, intimacy are all very powerful and sometimes can make you do some things you never thought you would. Try to keep your eyes on the prize, as they say.