still hurt and so confused

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Registered: 03-02-2006
still hurt and so confused
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Sat, 09-01-2007 - 5:24pm
My ex cheated on me while I was 6-8 months pregnant and I have posted the long sad story :) before but I am still clueless on what to do. I have had great responses but I just can't stop talking to him and having hope that things will work. I don't know if what he did is ever something I could really forgive and forget cause it wasn't a one time deal it was another relationship while we had a relationship. Whether it was some form of escape from reality I don't know, but I should be so done with someone who would treat me that way. We are having the first child both of us have had and maybe that and the fact that I have three weeks left has caused me to stay holding on... I need some serious advice. I have been wanting to tell him for weeks that I don't want to name our child what he originally picked out because hearing that name just hurts me and reminds me of what we use to have when we were happy and commited and picked the name together. I am still talking to him, and giving him the idea by doing so that I am giving him another chance. He has told me I wont regret it etc... and he has taken advantage of that and has called constantly to check on me, has remembered doctor's visits and even took some time out of his really busy work schedule right in the middle of the busiest time to talk to me when I told him my brother was in the hospital (even telling his boss, when he was confronted about his personal break, that he was taking this time to talk to me no matter what) He has been really sweet to me and I am just so scared this will all change once I tell him the name has got to go, it's too painful (even though part of me feels it will show me how serious he is, because this is his doing and if he cares about me and the child this shouldn't matter considering I am still giving the child his middle name) anyway I don't want to ramble anymore :) but I am just having such a hard time confronting him about things because I am scared his effort will stop, and I am having a hard time deciding if that would be such a bad thing anyway considering what he has done. Once a cheater always a cheater right? why do I still care what he thinks, and why can't I just tell him how I truly feel and see what his response is, that's probably the only way to find out how he truly feels right?
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Sat, 09-01-2007 - 9:39pm

Hi crazybeautiful,


Here's your previous posts for you to re-read and for others to catch up on your story.