So sad....

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Registered: 08-22-2007
So sad....
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Mon, 09-03-2007 - 12:38am

Hello all...I broke up with my bf about 1 week ago while he was out of town. He sent me an email when he was out that he still wanted to be with me. We finally spoke yesterday and ended it officially today...We dated for about 3 months. I started to notice a few weeks after we slept together that he didn't initiate s*x anymore, however he was interested in me still, which confused me...I asked him about it today bluntly & he said that he likes certain kind of women...which I didn't fit into. He said something along the lines of physically fit, girly, with nails & what not...who are women...not try to be like men....something like that...He has been jokinly tried to get me to wear fake nails (which I would never wear) & to stop cursing...I am a very good-looking girl & somewhat fit, but I am very abrasive & have rejected alot of what people call girly things...My fear is that I will never change and will be miserable forever.

Most men are intimidated by me...I have a job that is known to be a man's job (female exec)and I hold my own pretty good...but I notice that men feel that they have to compete with me or is it me? On top of everything I have issues with aniexty...i can't deal with the day to day ups & downs of a relationship. Instead of working on things I want to leave...I have also been hurt in past relationships...I will miss my ex, but not as much I missed my previous ex...how do I cope? Am I doing something wrong? I need some advice here....

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Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: leylaloves
Mon, 09-03-2007 - 7:08pm

Welcome to the board leylaloves,


The boards are usually slow on the weekends and I'm pretty busy today, but I wanted to give you this link to read: How To Get Over Your Breakup




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iVillage Member
Registered: 08-22-2007
In reply to: leylaloves
Tue, 09-04-2007 - 5:17pm
Thanks for the link....I screwed up though...I emailed afterwards...not a hate email..more along the lines why I am the way I am...I also texted this morning to tell him to delete my emails...because I was drinking...how embarrassing...never again will I do this ever!!! But how do I get over feeling like a complete childish immature idiot? I am suppose to be an educated woman with high goals & ambitions...how can I let my emotions rule me & control me?
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Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: leylaloves
Tue, 09-04-2007 - 5:33pm
I think everyone does it a least once.