Do you think it's possible????

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Registered: 03-21-2007
Do you think it's possible????
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Tue, 09-04-2007 - 10:20pm

My boyfriend and I were together on/off for the past 5 1/2 years. We have broken up a few times mostly because his mom dislikes me and doesn't even want to hear about my existance because I am not of the same religion as they are. Anyway I have been through hell with our on/off status and now we have broken up for the final time because he is 28 and can't even tell his mom that we are in the relationship (she didn't know for the past 3 years) as well he cannot commit!!! IE Marrige...and I kind of understand that part with all our ups and downs...

Anyway my question to you guys is do you think it's possible to be over the relationship and hurt before you are done for good? Because I broke up with him 17 days ago and haven't had any contact since...and I don't even feel tempted to contact him...so I am feeling quite weird about this situation...I get a little sad and sometimes angry but that's about it...so it is possible? I am almost scared that one day I will wake up and be in so much emotional pain that I won't know what to do with myself...but I have been hurt sooooo much already that I feel like I'm almost completely over it...IS IT POSSIBLE? :)

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Registered: 06-22-2006
Tue, 09-04-2007 - 10:28pm

Of course it's possible.

On the one hand, you could be waiting for the other shoe to drop because you've been down this road before and look where you are again, and on the other hand, you could be so very over the drama.

I had one ex a few years back that when we were done, **I** was oh-so-done. I thought to myself, "Did I even care for him while we dated?" and the truth was yes, I really had, but there had been so much drama, so much hurt during the relationship's final stages, that by the time we finally broke up (I made him do it) all my tears had been spent and I was more relieved than anything else. I took approximately three days to get over a relationship of a year and a half. So there you go.

I'd say don't sweat it in the meantime, you feel what you feel (or don't), and that's ok.

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Registered: 09-04-2007
Tue, 09-04-2007 - 10:39pm
i Don't think that u are completely over it. I think that maybe your just going through denial. It takes some time to get over a relationship like that as i was in one of those but i think maybe your just holding back how your really feeling.
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Registered: 03-21-2007
Tue, 09-04-2007 - 10:48pm
Yeah he was just in another city for the long weekend with his friends for his soccer team's tournament..and while we were together I was planning on going and then didn't end up going because of the break up...but it's weird I didn't feel bothered by it at all I had an awesome time over the weekend went out dancing and such :)....anyway I guess he was texting with someone all night long at one of the parties that they had because my best friend was there with her boyfriend and I guess my ex told them that he already has a new gf...my reaction to that? Nothing reallyyy whatever makes him happy! IF anything it just makes me become more cold towards him because I am realizing more and more that he was not the person that I thought he was... Also I find I go out when I feel like going out with my friends..and I looveee staying at home doing my own thing again...I think before I broke up with him I was more scared of how I would feel being alone and such but I am finding out that I make a great company to myself I am quite content with that...IT'S BEEN 17 DAYS OF NC AND GOING STRONG....
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Registered: 09-04-2007
Tue, 09-04-2007 - 11:00pm
Well good luck love.
Everyone is different and u seem to be dealing with this really well which is what i admire. I hope things work out for u