Broke up after 7 years-and now he's back

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Registered: 09-06-2007
Broke up after 7 years-and now he's back
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Thu, 09-06-2007 - 1:42pm
My b/f and I were together for over 5 years, then my senior year in college he broke up with me, out of now where, I was in shock and devastated! About three months after we broke up he contacted me, I was happy to hear from him and started to hang out with him immediately, we ended up back together and after a few months I broke up with him, things were different and he was different and I just wasnt getting thru to him, so I ended it, with every intention on getting back together with him. about 2 months later, he contacted me again, same story, we were back together, this time everything was great for a while. Then things got REALLY weird, REALLY bad, and I was more confused than ever. LONG story short, turns out he was getting into some drug use, nothing terrible, but he was chosing that lifestyle of partying with his friends over me. Once i found out, we sort of broke up, but i stayed around to help him, to get him on the right track, i did everything i could, he appreciated it and at that point i was ready to start over again and be together, he said he didnt think it was the right time, he needed to focus on getting his life back in order, with his job and family and couldnt deal with a girlfriend but he wanted me to stick around as a friend and that we would def be together eventually, i said no way, thats it, im out of here, and this is the last time, so we were done. THEN 3 months later he started calling again, sending me text messages, at first i responded cause i was hoping we could maybe be friends at some point, but then it turned into, i want you back, i screwed it all up, you are the girl for me, please give me another chance, everything is different now, you are the one i want to settle down with, i never should have let you know, please talk to me, let me fix this...blah blah blah. and i dunno what to do! I am so happy right now, doing what i am doing and enjoying life, but i was always so happy with him to and always thoguht we would spend the rest of our lives together. i just dont know if things are really different and im risking losing him forever.
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Thu, 09-06-2007 - 2:07pm

Welcome to the board anna.bear,


"i just dont know if things are really different and im risking losing him forever. "


It's a risk you have to be willing to take. No one can tell you how many times you have to go through something before you give up and say you are done.