inside his head

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Registered: 09-13-2007
inside his head
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Thu, 09-13-2007 - 7:14pm
Long story short... Off and on for almost seven years. I would not say we have had an easy relationship, met young, etc... but I would say we always have had enormous levels of love for one another. Well, we had decided to move across country and move in together for the first time. This is supposed to happen in a couple months. Well, I think the stress of that had gotten to both of us and we had not been getting along all that great lately. So, a week ago we had plans to do something. Instead we end up in a phone call with him saying that he thinks we want different things and that things just havent been the same lately, etc. I asked him if he was breakin up with me over the phone and he said he wasnt trying to do that (not a yes or a no). Things got more heated and i hung up on him saying to do whatever he wants. Well... I hear he has told people we are broken up. I am not sure to what extent he is doing this, because in the past he has "advertised" his singledom and this time he hasnt even changed his myspace status to single. I have contacted him and asked him if we are broken up for real this time or if he just needs time to think. No response. He has however communicated with me about a non-relationship issue. But in regards to the relationship i have gotten nothing except for me saying "I would like to talk. Are you open to that idea at all" and he responded with "maybe but not in the immediate future." And nothing else. He hates talking about relationship things, he hates confrontation, and he hates discussing things. Perhaps he feels our conversation should have already answered those questions??? Do i move on? Are we broken up? Why cant he atleast send me a message saying he needs time to think or is over it etc. etc. He knows I have a serious decision to make within the next week as to stay here or move across the country. If anyone has any idea what is going on in his head, PLEASE let me know. I am lost...
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Registered: 12-29-2006
Fri, 09-14-2007 - 2:27am

I am typing this not to hurt you...but hopefully help. I was in the same situation 8 years, he had the ring, but we lived in two different countries. We agreed we were getting married and he secured me a visa to move. All stars were in alignment and I was able to get a corporate transfer. As things were closer, I terminated my lease.