Abusive boyfriend??
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| Sat, 09-15-2007 - 2:43am |
Hello everyone
I am having a huge relationship problem with my boyfriend of a little over a year. A little background about us is that I am 21 and he is 20. So we are young and fairly immature. Tonight we had one of the hugest fights we have ever had. It started with him wanting to attend a party at the beach and me telling him I would rather not. He kept continuing to ask me, "why what are you going to do instead?" While I kept saying, "why does it matter." This may seem stupid, but what he was getting at is that he thinks I am going to hang out with other guys and cheat on him. I have never cheated on him. He always has suspicions even though I am with him every minute of my free time.
So I agreed to attend this party with him after he stormed off to his car and was about to leave. So the party was on a beach and I can't walk very well because my foot and knee have been in a lot of pain lately. After searching for the party and realizing it was very far, he agreed to go back in the car. From there he started drinking beers behind the wheel. I have to admit I was drinking as well with him in the car. I was letting myself be in the moment.
Later on I started to feel myself get annoyed and realize how stupid he is for driving intoxicated. He just got a brand new $40,000 truck and promised me and himself he would never bring alcohol in his car or drive under the influence. He has said this a number of times. Lately he has been drinking a lot and whenever he gets buzzed or drunk he becomes the biggest a**hole to me.
We have had huge fights about his drinking and it is always the next day that he apologizes and agrees with me and says he will drink responsibly and doesn't need more than 1-2 beers. So tonight he drank 4 beers behind the wheel. While we were driving I told him I was annoyed that he is drinking and driving and that I don't want anything bad to happen to him. I offered to drive since I only had one beer, but he refused and said he can drive fine.
Anyways the night ended with him telling me how much of a bitch I am and that he doesn't give a f**k anymore. He says I control him and that I am a granny. But oh wait, he said he loves me. I wasn't really saying much while he told me all this, not good to argue with a drunk. He continued to tell me how much I ruin his life. I kept saying I am sorry and I don't want us to end over this, but he said f**k you I don't care. I'm sick of your bulls**t.
I feel so lowered and completely desperate. Tomorrow we are suppose to go camping and he says he still wants to go, but he ditched me to go get drunk with his friends. I don't know what to do...I mean I know what I should do and that is leave him, but I want everyone else's opinion.
Just a little background info on him and our past, he has been to jail because of stupid things he has done while drunk, he always passively accuses me of cheating on him ( he disguises it now by looking at bruises and scratches and questioning me) Lately though i have had a really hard time trusting him. We broke up about a month and half ago because he he accused me of cheating on him and wouldnt believe my denial. Then the day we broke up he goes and makes out with another girl. We got back together 2 weeks later. I love him and I can't imagine not seeing him ever again, it is the hardest thing breaking up with him. I just can't believe i am in this situation, i feel like ne of those very very stupid girls. I need everyones help!

Welcome to the board bblue351351,
How sad for you.... you two are going in circles.
Hi bblue..
Sorry to hear about your relationships, It must be hard for you to choose which is the right way