Letting go of the Future
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Letting go of the Future
| Sat, 09-22-2007 - 8:09am |
The other day I was feeling so, so sad at the thought that my ex and I would now never have the family we had talked about, or life in the home I had imagined for us, or do the things I had imagined us doing. It hurt so bad! And then...
And then I realized that these things were all fantasies. Nothing that was hurting me at that moment was about our current, actual relationship; it was images from my imagination. And it struck me how painful something that wasn't even real, something entirely pretend, could be. Realizing that these things I was grieving so hard, while important (dreams and fantasies are motivating, after all), never existed, changed how I felt about them just enough to let them go. That was a good moment.

Everything you feel is normal:
The most painful state of being is remembering the future, particularly one you can never have - Kierkegaard
Hi kbaby2006,
You are welcome. There are good days and bad days.