still wanna be with him, he doesnt

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Registered: 09-24-2007
still wanna be with him, he doesnt
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Mon, 09-24-2007 - 7:00pm
Help... me and my boyfriend have been going out for like two years. About 5 months ago he broke it off with me because of a big fight, which later he says it was because our ralationship was just not working. When he broke it off he was with this girl. His reason for being with this girl was because i was out talking to guys the 2nd day after we broke up, so as what i can tell, it was just him finding someone to get over me. Three months later he wasnts to get back toghether. It was a wonderful feeling for the both of us because we missed eachother so much. This was good for the 1st three months, then we started school again and he broke up with me beacuse he just doesnt wanna be with me and he just is tired of it. I feel so hurt because getting back toghther made me love him so so much. Its so hard to get over this. I love him so much, but what do you do when you know the other person does not want it? we have been broken up since yesturday, he hasnt called or nothing. :(
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Mon, 09-24-2007 - 11:25pm

The answer is actually both painful and simple.

If one person doesn't want to work on the relationship - there's no hope. There's no magic trick to make them come back or want to work on things or suddenly think it's all a mistake. So for all intents and purposes, this relationship is over.

Susanna

- There comes a point in your life when you realize who matters, who never did, who won't anymore, and who always will. So don't worry about people from your
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Tue, 09-25-2007 - 1:42pm

Welcome to the board lovely1012001,


Sorry for your pain.

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Registered: 09-24-2007
Tue, 09-25-2007 - 4:35pm
yeah i know what you mean, so do i just let it go?? Whats the cause for his confusion?
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Tue, 09-25-2007 - 5:26pm
Yep, you just let it go.
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Tue, 09-25-2007 - 7:28pm
yeah thank you for the advice :) so what your telling me is that the best thing i can do is leave him alone completly?
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Tue, 09-25-2007 - 7:52pm

Unfortunately yes.

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Wed, 09-26-2007 - 7:15pm
Thanks for the advice. It really helped me out a lot. :) Even though he is confusing lol
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Wed, 09-26-2007 - 7:25pm
Most of us are confusing.
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Registered: 09-24-2007
Wed, 09-26-2007 - 7:29pm
yeah thats true, your right :) thanks
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Sat, 09-29-2007 - 11:50am
He called me twice wendsday night like at 11:30 10:30. Then he sent me two long text messages saying that... He doesnt know about me but he's missing me that he doesnt know if he's just missing me or he's too in love with me and cant unlove me, or if hes too attached? but he said that he ment what he said when he said that he cant trust me. ... See i have this friend Apryl and we have been hanging out more this year and the thing about it is that she is a huge flirt and just likes to hook with everyone. He knows this because he went to school with me and he knows how she is and also with the fact that our school is very small. Well he also has a friend that is in my same grade. This guy tells