What do I say?

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Registered: 03-30-2003
What do I say?
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Sun, 09-30-2007 - 3:06pm
Eventually I will talk to my ex again either online or on the phone and he might ask why I haven't been trying to talk to him. If I do talk to him online ever, it will only be to say hi and that I am doing good or some other superficial thing. He might not ask, but just in case, what do I say? I don't want to tell him I'm giving him space, then he'll think I'm just waiting around for something. I don't want to make it seem like I don't think of him at all either or he might move on. I'm confused. How do I make it seem like I'm doing fine without him but don't hate him. I just want to keep it simple and give him a simple answer as to why I haven't been really contacting him. I don't want to say "I've been busy" or "I'm moving on". Something else? Just in case...
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Registered: 10-18-2006
In reply to: neko_hi
Sun, 09-30-2007 - 4:30pm

Hi Neko,


IMO, if and when the conversation w/the takes place, just flow with it.

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Registered: 03-30-2003
In reply to: neko_hi
Sun, 09-30-2007 - 4:36pm
You're so right pinky, but it's so hard to not focus on it. I even see him online right now, but I have enough willpower to not message him. He's so busy with his music, he's opening up for The Killers next month and it kills me he's becoming so successful and just moving on. Yes, he is not a bad guy, and that's what makes it harder to move on. I do need to focus on myself, I try to once in awhile, here and there, and then I'll just feel so uninterested in what I'm doing. But you are right, I should just flow with it but not divulge too much information, I still want a distance just to make him still miss me. I'm sure he is, but I wish he would just act on it! He's stronger than me, that I know. I'm trying everyday...still have my ups and downs, but more like downs and and more downs. lol
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Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: neko_hi
Sun, 09-30-2007 - 6:30pm

Hi neko_hi,


::he might ask why I haven't been trying to talk to him.


You say: It's best for ME at this time if I don't.