It's not over, is it??
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It's not over, is it??
| Mon, 10-01-2007 - 12:57am |
Hi there, I'm new to the iVillage community, and desperately need advice.
Me and my guy were together 3 years, mostly long distance. No fights until a month ago, when he snagged a job that was nowhere close to me, meaning the distance would remain an issue unless I moved. Feeling that it would put more strain on us, and


Are you able to behave like you're just friends without it being painful to you?
Welcome to the board showtime07,
It's not easy to be friends with someone right after a break-up and especially when you still have romantic feelings for that person and wish things were different.
Focus on you and your healing.
Thanks for your responses.
The way I see it, I'd rather have him as a friend than not have him in my life at all (cliche,
Everyone has to do what they feel is best.
Hi,
The most painful state of being is remembering the future, particularly one you can never have - Kierkegaard
It's not good to go down the path of comparing your life with his.... look at it this way, if you jump up and make a major move to a new city, new job, how long before you feel lonely and the grief catches up with you?
In the area of being friends, we're aware that it's a two way street right?
You being his friend is fine, but he needs to be yours too. Meaning he has to respect the fact that this break up hurt you, and that you need time off. And YES, you do need time off. Cold Turkey. Nobody ever quit smoking by reducing the amount they smoke. Nope. They throw out their cigarettes, slap on the nicotine patches (read: other time filling activities), and start their cold turkey. Same advice here.