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| Mon, 12-17-2007 - 10:44pm |
There is so much to this story, that it would be a total novel to cover all of it, so I will give you the highlights, and tell you what my current issues are.

I have been in a similiar situation.
Welcome to the board crushedhrt,
I'm not sure where to start.
Here is a quote I heard that I think fits, at least it did with me.
"Never make someone a priority that makes you an option"
Good luck with everything.
Thank you for getting back to me.....
From what I did explain to you in my post, yes, I will say that im my OWN
Hi Crushed,
I agree we have all begged at some point...that doesn't make it obsessive.
It's late for me so this may be choppy....these are the things that I see as obsesive:
-- This probably was the 6th time that we have tried
Greetings, I am in the same situation right now. I've been obsessing over a man for the last 6-7 months and the worst part of it is that he doesn't even live in the same country as me. We've met in person once, this summer and have been talking on the phone every weekend since and emailing during the week.
Now he's off (probably sleeping with someone else) and is busy and out of touch with me. I have never chased him, but my hurt is still there. Obviously, just as in your case, it never would have worked.
But I just wanted to let you kow that I know what you're going through. Its so hard not to obsess over someone when your empty inside and need love, but are afraid of true intimacy. So much of this stems from low self esteem. I just wish I knew how to get more self esteem....Therapy helps, I guess, but I think with people liek you and me who just make these poor decisions knowing we are doomed, we have to look back into our past for why we behave this way.
These kinds ofunhealthy behaviors are always rooted in early childhood trauma . Anyway....just writing that helped me feel better for a moment. I hope it helped you too.
Ok, back with the second part:
::At work, he