It's over for good, what a mess.
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| Tue, 12-18-2007 - 9:15am |
Well it's over for good now. I'm 29, he's 24 (big part of the problem) and we had been together for 2 1/2 years. Living together for a year, we have a dog. And now I realize he's ben trying to break up with me the past few months. And basically by turning into a jackass so that he doesn't have to be the one to do it.
What hurts is he's tried so hard to push me away, I'd get upset by something he did, like once a week, he'd get drunk during the week and come home with his friend at 2am and wake me up. I'd get mad, and then the next day he acts like everything's fine. And that's a bigger problem too. He has to drink every night, and gets really drunk every weekend. He has chosen alcohol over me I guess.
Why now after he told me Sat night that I'm not the one and that he'd go stay at his parents while I move out....why does he still come home and sit on the couch with me and pretend everything's ok? He still comes and sleeps in my bed with me at night....why???
Every piece of furniture in our house is mine, so I'm not just going to leave it for him to use. So that's why I'm staying there. But I'm moving next week (Merry Xmas huh).
I just don't understand why I care so much about him, why I love him so much. When he has never treated me like gold. It's just so hard to change your life after 2 1/2 years and I'm so scared.
thanks for listeninig,
Kate

I've followed your posts for a while now and while I'm very sorry for the pain you're going through, I really think you will be better off once this man is out of your life.
I'm sure he's ambivalent about ending things with you because there are a lot of things he loves about you and your relationship.
Hi Kate,
First of all, I'd like to offer you support because this is incredibly difficult. I am also going through a breakup from a man who drinks too much and exhibits alcoholic tendencies and it makes everything so much messier and more painful. Try not to think about it as "he chose alcohol over me" because that will make you crazy. what i had to realize with my ex was he did not even have the ability to make that choice because he was so powerless over alcohol. That may not be your situation, but it is something to consider.
Best of luck, you will get through this. Move as quickly as possible and then don't contact him further. And maybe check out some Al-Anon meetings, they really have been helping me because I also still miss him and care about him regardless of the bad behavior.
:)
Hi kwhere,
::Why now after he told me Sat night that I'm not the one and that he'd go stay at his parents while I move out....why does he still come home and sit on the couch with me and pretend everything's ok? He still comes and sleeps in my bed with me at night....why???
Because he can.