Still Hurts...
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Still Hurts...
| Thu, 12-20-2007 - 3:01pm |
It has been about 6 weeks since my ex gf broke off our 4+ year realationship.
| Thu, 12-20-2007 - 3:01pm |
It has been about 6 weeks since my ex gf broke off our 4+ year realationship.
I know how you are feeling.
Don't be so hard on yourself--of course you're still hurting, only six weeks into a breakup of such a long relationship!
i am sorry that you are hurting, but i do hope that knowing that you're not alone will help you through this hard time in your life.
i'm recently single after 4+uears of dating and 1+year of marriage...we're getting a divorce and i've never felt like i've let so many people down.
just reading a post by a guy who actually cares about the relationship he was in was very reassuring.
i blog in case you want to read it. you might consider writing in one yourself, i find that it helps me purge all of my thoughts into a single outlet.
-lisa-
life isn't always by the book....
http://life-by-the-book.blogspot.com
life isn't always by the book....
http://life-by-the-book.blogspot.com
rossjack
Im sorry about your breakup, but it is too soon to expect to be over this. I know you will get over her and I know you will find someone else- and that is because you CARE. I dont hear about many guys who will admit they are hurting, most seem to just pick up and move on.
I am in the same position as you, except that i was the one who ended it. We had a 3 yr relationship and also talked seriously about our future, but he had a ONS and although we tried reconciling, I couldn't get over it. So I can relate where you are with the cheating. But my ex tried hard to make things right, but it can't be. I can't spend the rest of my life wondering if he is telling me the truth, all our trust is gone
What I will tell you is that now that I've had some time to REALLY see things the way they were and think about how i feel, I am realizing that I haven't been "in love" with him for some time, even though I thought I did. I love him, but I'm not "in love" with him, because the hurt of cheating was too deep
I think if you take time to write down how you felt when she betrayed you, and give yourself some time, you will find that you have changed from this experience. And that change makes you a different person and one that can't be in the same relationship.
You give me hope that my bf is hurting; he says he is and its not that I want him miserable, but I know he didnt' want the breakup. My fear is he will just up and move on and throw me another dagger to my heart. Its only been less than 2 months for us and I really can't handle knowing he doesn't even miss me. I want him to hurt as much as he hurt me, as terrible as that may sound. I dont mean to be rude, but as the other posters have said, it is really nice to know that guys can hurt as much as we do.
Keep your spirits up :)