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| Thu, 12-27-2007 - 1:26pm |
We dated three years and still live together. I have to face him when I get back to school.
In May, I found out he had cheated on me in December 06. He didn't tell me, I found out.

Welcome to the board adventurefish,
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I just feel in my heart that he's not hiding anything.
There's nothing Ic an do about it, and it makes me feel hopeless and worthless.
I just think it's cruel to your ex to jump into a relationship right afterward. Like they didn't take any time to get over.
That's where No Contact comes in handy.... you don't have to be exposed to it.
This was posted by pinky ages ago and I saved it:
Think of your relationship like a big house that has been demolished. What do you do next? You can't live in the house any more! So you decide to clear up the mess (emotion), brick by brick, it takes a bit of time, but you liked living in that big house so you guess it's worth the effort. Then there's a big hole in the ground that needs to be filled up again. You start this process by making new friends who are happy to help you rebuild your new big house, so it's bigger and better than it was before.
Your ex has decided that he's going to build on top of all the rubble (denial), he/she can't be bothered to take time out to clear up all the mess. So off he/she goes, building on top of the old house. He/She acknowledges that the structure is a little wobbly but he/she says that it will do for him right now.
The storm hits. Guess whose house is still standing?
Your house is built on a solid foundation. His/Her house is a big fake "paper house", yours a big strong stone structure. Now tell me who's going to have the better future? It's up to you to decide.
I've done no-contact for about a day now.. and every second that goes by that I don't hear his voice seems like it hurts me more. My muscles are tense, my chest is heavy... I just miss being able to talk to my best friend. And I can't stand feeling like I'm playing a game.
Hi adventurefish,
I've been gone a few weeks, how do you feel now?