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So incredibly angry
| Thu, 12-27-2007 - 5:01pm |
Where do I start? After wasting 3 years of my life with this guy, I finally figured out that he wasn't intrested in committing so I broke up with him a few weeks ago. There were many events over the past year that made me decide that he wasn't intrested in being a part of my life and he wasn't intrested in being a part of mine.

Welcome to the board Julie,
No it won't go away on it's own.
Thanks :) I liked that article. I guess I just feel so stupid for caring about someone who obviously cared so little for me :(
Julie
You deserve better.
I was with someone on and off for three years.
I wanted more he didn't. For ME it wasn't enough.
We broke up but like a FOOL I kept going back until LAST year.
He asked what I wanted for Christmas and I said HONESTLY a ring.
I got a ring on New Year's Eve Day but he gave it to me early...originally he intended to give it too me at his ex-g/f's that NEW YEAR'S EVE (we went there to celebrate with HIS friends)...it said BEST FRIENDS...It was over...knew it in my heart of hearts...we spent that night together...his mom invited me for supper...I brought wine and after I did the dishes we went to the party at his friends.
I saw him NEW YEAR'S DAY and then NOTHING.
We haven't talked since.
I have seen him he has waved and tried talking to my daughter and sil but I just decided I wouldn't settle for ANY less than a commitment and unfortunately he wasn't that INTO me.
It hurt and it was so hard but I held my head up high.
Recently I met someone and I am just taking it slow because my heart has been hurt.
He has given me two rings actually but sometimes I have my doubts about us.
Not too sure if it is meant to be.
It won't be easy hon and it is difficult to move on actually carry on but time does heal the wound.
I don't believe it ever truly goes away completely but gradually fades.
Take care hon, keeping busy helps, pamper yourself and also allow yourself permission to grieve and the time to do it.
Sometimes we need to be not so hard on ourselves.
Something I am learning everyday.
Hopefully "SOMEDAY"!
You feel angry because you wasted valuable time, your time, in this looser and now after three years wasted you realize that he's not going to commit ever, to you. To get rid of the anger try your taekwando and exercise, BUT most of all allow yourself to forgive yourself. It's commandable of you that you broke it off and that are not pursuing a dead end relationship again. Keep a journal and write your feelings. You're allowed to feel anger, sadness, hate and love.
The anger will go away and will lead to feelings of frustration, sadness, depression and lastly acceptance. You'll be able to view the future with other eyes and will forget and forgive.
Thank you everyone for your support. It helps to know I am not the only one who is feeling this way. Part of me is like a new year and a new start... Clearing out the riff raff for something better and the other part feels just that hurt angry :(
Julie, I just wanted to say that I understand and am in a similar situation. The guy I was with for almost 2 years never really treated me like his girlfriend. There are so many things I go over in my head and get mad about now, you know, the red flags that I had ignored. Unfortunately, there were a lot of good things too, so my anger is mixed with sadness and regret...
There are times when I feel so full of rage, like I could just scream at him for hours. I haven't. I vent in other ways like exercising or writing in my journal. I remind myself that I never stay angry forever (takes too much energy) and eventually I won't be mad at him at all.
I just wanted to let you know that you're not alone.
Anne
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