i dont know what else to do

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Registered: 01-01-2008
i dont know what else to do
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Tue, 01-01-2008 - 9:39pm

Last New Years Day I broke it off with my boyfriend after 6 and 1/2 years because I felt like that he was never going to propose to me.

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Registered: 12-09-2007
Tue, 01-01-2008 - 11:09pm

Misplaced2,


I am really sorry that you had to go through this. I had

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Registered: 01-01-2008
Wed, 01-02-2008 - 11:30pm
Thank you for the advice... He was at my work today.
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Registered: 11-23-2007
Thu, 01-03-2008 - 3:03am
My personal advise just for you and you only!
Stop playing mind tricks to yourself. You had two powerful reasons to walk away and from what you are sharing none of those issues are solved and I think that is for the best.
The man has a drinking problem and thus he is not able to commit to ANYTHING.
You don't want to beback in that situation, you deserve better and the sooner you relize it the better for you. Seriousky, let him go!
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Registered: 01-01-2008
Thu, 01-03-2008 - 10:53pm

Emilia,


You are probably so right.

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Registered: 11-23-2007
Fri, 01-04-2008 - 3:36am
Hey I know... well I don't actually know because I've always had the nicest guys ever...
But about the goodlooks... think about this: if he keeps drinking he is going to get premature wrinkles, puffy eyes and a big belly... Not that attractive right?
On the other hand, you can start running out your frustrations and at the same time get a healthy hot looking body. How about that? Fat puffy guy/ hot you?
It's not that terrible, really its his loss....
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Registered: 12-09-2007
Fri, 01-04-2008 - 7:01pm
First, let me say I am sorry, I wasn't able to get online last night. It was a hectic night. Second, from my experiences, he will always try to hang on in some way as long as you let him. If you maintain being his strength, someone to depend on then he will just keep using you when it's convenient. I know...and it's highly unlikely that he's going to change. That kind of issue is a burden you shouldn't have to shoulder, especially if he doesn't feel that it's an issue and has no desire to change. You should probably cut the ties (at least until you can heal your heart over it) and if you maintain being friends, only do so when you are emotionally strong enough- if at all. I hope you are another day closer to healing and that tomorrow brings you that much closer.