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Registered: 03-09-2007
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Wed, 01-02-2008 - 9:51am

Happy New Year Everyone!!!!!


Have a quick question....My ex responded to some questions I had asked a while back...that had helped me close the books on us for good. He admits that he has a problem with making a committment. When asked how many others he's dating he said it's hard to be definite but he's honest with everyone...He admits to spending weekends with some of them and vice versa. I asked if any of these women act as if they are in a committed relationship with him...he said sometimes but that more than likely it is an act.(recap: he has active online profiles..as well as date at least two others in town that I know of) You can get a background on us at:http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlbreaking&msg=24583.1&ctx=128


Anyway I bumped into him since I last posted and he seemed so dejected saying he wished he could drink and smoke if he would..(he's been on blood pressure pills since 21..he's 37)...and how he hates himself each time he dissapoints or hurts me...and that he is really trying to do better and change someday.


Okay...I am still moving on haven't called him..don't plan to.

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Registered: 08-06-2007
Wed, 01-02-2008 - 10:20am

If he has active online profiles, he is LOOKING!! I think he wants to keep you on the back burner incase he wants a serious relationship later. That is not fair to you. I can understand that you want to help him, but that is not your responsibility. 37 years old is old enough for him to solve his own problems. Look forward not back, and focus on finding someone who will appreciate you and not play the field. Good luck!

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Registered: 06-22-2006
Wed, 01-02-2008 - 4:47pm

Leave it alone, he's not a child, nor are you his therapist so don't fall into that trap.

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Registered: 03-09-2007
Wed, 01-02-2008 - 5:47pm

You're both right. I was conflicted over sending him the book but like you said Sandra I am keeping this thing going even though I'm no longer with him.