Getting over the breakup
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| Thu, 01-03-2008 - 11:06pm |
Well I have never written on one of these before but I am trying my best to get over my break up.
I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years and we broke up last month, it was mutural, a decision we both took. We fought all the time towards the end of our relationship and felt it was best to leave on good terms. We lived together after this decision for one month, every fine and talking like we have never done before and yes amazing sex ( the best i have ever had).
So I know that we have something special, we love each other very much, we just cant seem to get it together - we have tried. I would have loved this relationship to have worked, he is an amazing guy but it doesnt work.
So I have been so down, so ugly, so sad so terrible but I have also been through 2 weeks of positive and exciting feeling of my possible future - then this morning, I hear friends talking about him, and what he is doing on his vacation (hanging with other friends of ours) and it hurt, why dont I know this ? I should know this ? But this is not my domain any more, and this hurt, that I need to STOP caring to a certain point. And what feels the worst is him being with someone else, why why why ??? Shouldn't I be caring about how much I miss him, that I want to talk to him, be with him ?? BUT no, I just care about him being with someone else and touching someone else and that other future girl - am I shallow ?
I want and need to get through this - I know it will be difficult as we still love each other in a certain way but I also know that it is right, i dont wont to fall into depression, please help me with advise, tips anything to make this process a little easier.

danastar
I have no advice, sadly. I wanted to just offer support because this sentence
I just care about him being with someone else and touching someone else and that other future girl - am I shallow ?
describes me to a T.
Thanks for your reply and support. I have another close friend going through the same process, she decided to break up and they are very good friend - she feels exactly the same. I find it so strange, maybe it is just part of the process. You want to be loved, to know that person yearns for you, wants you. Do you think they think the same ? Do they miss us or just don't want us to be with anyone else ?
I am trying to be so adult about this process and I am taking it step by step but what I do know is that it is good to be around people, to feel good, talk etc - I have done the dark hole and I am NOT going back - that I am sure.
Since the break up I want to do many things - dance class, guitar lessons, get my hair done, buy clothes etc - gosh so odd but feels good.
How are you ????