I'm a fool.......AGAIN

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Registered: 01-03-2008
I'm a fool.......AGAIN
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Sat, 01-05-2008 - 9:04am

Basically, he did it again.

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Registered: 12-17-2007
Sat, 01-05-2008 - 8:25pm

Me...5 years...on and off.

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Registered: 11-28-2007
Sat, 01-05-2008 - 8:53pm

Hi guys. I'm in the same situation. Mine broke up with me 4 days ago. I'd say he's done this maybe 5 times in the span of our 3.5 year relationship. Its crazy because 5% of the relationship is bad, but to me its worth the other 95% being good. He gets all worked up and upset and moves out and then come back after a week or so of me texting, calling and emailing him how much I miss him. This time I've gone the whole time without making contact with him. I had to come to my parents house to make sure I didnt do anything crazy like text him. I dont know if I'm not contacting him because I want him to cool off and wonder why I havent begged for him back. Or do I want to disconnect myself from him and start to break the cycle.

I don't know about y'all, but I'm afraid that if we get back together with them its just going to keep happening. What happens if we end up marrying them and have kids. Will they just bail on us when times get rough? I guess it is a sign of immaturity and I'm not sure thats something they'll grow out of. Mine runs back to his moms house everytime gets mad and moves out. I wish she would just tell him to grow up already!




Edited 1/5/2008 9:08 pm ET by marcie1617
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Registered: 12-17-2007
Sat, 01-05-2008 - 9:08pm

Hi,


Break the cycle...it hurts like hell, but it's the best in the long run...Like I said..NO MORE DRAMA.


I am so sick of waiting for his call, text, email, something that shows he cares...ready for this...he always ends up saying It's my fault...and I always end up saying your right honey, I am sorry.


Not anymore...Sat night...lets all make a pack and break the cycle...If they really want us..like (the note book) guy really wanted her...then they know how to find us

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Registered: 11-28-2007
Sat, 01-05-2008 - 10:07pm
i can definitely make a pact that i wont make contact with him. but it will take a lot more for me to not wonder if he will call me. i dont really expect him to call or email so i'm not constantly checking my phone. i'd say the last times he broke up and left i did check my phone alot though. maybe it just takes a while to get used to it. i'm actually feeling a lot better. i dont know if i'm just expecting him to come back since that's what he always does, or if i'm getting over him.
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Registered: 10-02-2007
Sun, 01-06-2008 - 4:30pm

It's tough.

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Registered: 12-05-2005
Sun, 01-06-2008 - 10:43pm
Hello, everyone. I have been dealing with the same thing for quite a while. He goes away then comes back. I have decided that he comes back when he is feeling lonely or needs something (nursing back to health from a cold, money, etc.) It is so difficult not to go back to what is familiar, but like all of us in this situation, we need to be done and move ahead. I guess it is scary not knowing what lies ahead...will I ever feel love again? Is there anyone out there for me who will not treat me as
Faith