Made a fool out of myself

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-02-2007
Made a fool out of myself
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Sun, 01-06-2008 - 12:20am

My BF and I broke up about two months ago and it was UGLY.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-31-2007
Sun, 01-06-2008 - 12:50am

hey

i also broke up with my boyfriend for good the second time. I feel like we should trust our instincts sometimes but our heart being all irrational wins more often, sometimes for the worst. You did everything right, he obviously is the one wracking his brain to find you, create more drama maybe just because he's alone, you said he didn't sound sincere. How do you make a grown man stop doing things? I guess you can't, you can only control what you do, and hopefully not reciprocate.

You've had an iron will for two months, don't crash now!

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-24-2007
Sun, 01-06-2008 - 8:19am

you guys broke up for a reason....remember that reason!

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-20-2007
Sun, 01-06-2008 - 11:01am

Hi there. You didn't make a fool out of yourself--we are human, and there's only so much control we can exert. Yes, you may be disappointed in yourself for having offered a "booty call", but don't beat yourself up about it and learn from how it has made you feel.


The important thing is here that you are wise enough to know that this relationship is over, and a chance to reconcile is slim to none, by your own admission. Like the previous poster said, the reasons why your broke up are most likely going to be there still--especially since he didn't sound too sincere on the phone. So, go with that--go with your gut. Don't undo months of healing for the very tempting prospect of "giving in one more try."


You can reclaim your dignity--you already have by writing to us here. He gave you an "in", by saying let's think about it. So when he contacts you, you say, "I thought about it, and it's not a good idea. We are not good for each other, and let's leave the past in the past." You don't owe him any explanations, and don't allow yourself to be dragged into a conversation that will re-hash memories and challenge your determination. As difficult as it may be, don't let him access that little part of you that cares for him. Enjoy the fact that he has come running back--it's a nice little ego stroke, but leave it at that.