Can he be over it?

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Registered: 01-24-2007
Can he be over it?
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Thu, 01-10-2008 - 6:53pm

You guys are all going to think I'm crazy...the last day or so I have one thought going thru my mind....is he over me? Like that, after 3+ years together?


I ended it, I know I should not care, but I can't help it, I do.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 01-10-2008 - 7:02pm

Sorry that you're having a bad day!


I do think that as a very, very general rule, men tend to move on more quickly at least on the surface.

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Registered: 01-24-2007
Thu, 01-10-2008 - 9:41pm

northwestwanderer


thanks for sharing your story. I am sorry you had that happen to you. How did you deal with the fact he had someone else 2 weeks later? That will be the next hurdle i have to overcome. The fact there is someone new.

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Registered: 10-28-2007
Fri, 01-11-2008 - 12:49am

The bad days are really bad, aren't they?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 01-11-2008 - 11:47am

Oh, as you can imagine, it was hell.

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Registered: 11-09-2004
Sat, 01-12-2008 - 12:30am
Losing weight eh? I lost 10 pounds before we officially broke up. I'm only 95 to begin with. Do you know how scary this was? Oh man, and I don't know when the hell I'll gain it back. I'm officially eating again, which is great because I didn't for like a month. It feels so good to be hungry again, but I still have my off days. I'm so scared to go near a scale right now.
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Registered: 12-22-2007
Sun, 01-13-2008 - 8:45pm

I think generally men take longer to get over a relationship.

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Registered: 11-04-2007
Mon, 01-14-2008 - 8:29am

I have "read" that guys take longer but I don't know if that's true- whenever I see them, they seem to be doing so much better than a girl does. They do mask their feelings but they also get right out there and hookup with as many girls as they can (at least in college) and it makes you wonder. I know they think that's the way to get over their ex- but I wonder if they really care about their ex and are just happy they have this new freedom to get something guilt free now.


I wish I knew the real answer to this. I would love to know if my ex was over me too. He also called and texted a lot- like lovergrl's guy is, but I also wondered if that was for his own ego- just to see if I would talk to him.


Guys are so confusing but the thing that bothers me the most is how they can just bed a girl so soon after their heart was supposedly broken :(