UPDATE 12 days post-breakup

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Registered: 11-09-2004
UPDATE 12 days post-breakup
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Sat, 01-12-2008 - 12:13am

So it's been 12 days since N and I broke up. Honestly, considering he was and still is the love of my life, I really don't think I'm doing too bad. I only feel really awful when I see other happy couples together because it reminds me I'm alone, and also when I hear a song/see something that reminds me of N and that's usually when I start crying. But I have a million thoughts going through my head right now ... so I'm going to list some of them.


1) We're still talking. I'm not ready to cut off contact yet at all. I need to cut it out gradually. I don' t think talking to him at this point is making me feel any worse. I actually feel BETTER after getting a message/call from him and sometimes it reminds me how I made the right decision to end the romantic part of the relationship.


2) We haven't exchanged our stuff yet. We have to meet up to do this. I'm afraid when we meet up, we'll end up ... you know. I haven't been able to stop thinking about having one last time with him for old times sake. It's totally wrong I know, and it probably won't happen because I'm smart enough to stop it, but it sounds ... ugh, it SOUNDS soooo good. I don't know. The sex was the one thing in our relationship which was ALWAYS incredible, no matter what fights we were having.


3) He still thinks love can solve everything. I say you can fall in love with a person but still not see a future with them. That was our case. He says that we didn't try hard enough and we could have worked through our problems. I say we tried so damn hard. For goodness sakes, we were already in counselling! We WERE trying soooo

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Registered: 04-20-2007
Sat, 01-12-2008 - 10:53am

Hey there. I won't yell at you, don't worry :) Since it sounds like you're the one that did the breaking up, the no-contact route isn't necessarily imperative since it was your decision. And we all know that while it isn't easy, it's

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Registered: 01-24-2007
Sat, 01-12-2008 - 12:08pm

Its been 3 mos since I ended a 3 yr relationship. And like you, we are still talking. It has lessened with time though and I dont feel it has held me up, since I ended things. I will say though that there are times when its starts to bother me that he is moving on- and I know he is because we still talk!! And when days go by that we don't talk, then I realize he is more and more over me.