very grateful

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very grateful
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Tue, 03-25-2008 - 2:45am

i was looking at six months worth of my posts about my breakup, and i just wanted to thank everyone who's helped me. this is so late, i know! but i've always felt so appreciative of everyone's input and support.


during the breakup, i saw how ugly and self-serving

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In reply to: showtime07
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 2:58am
I know exactly what you are going through... If you read on of me last inserts "Good Girl Gone Bad", you'll see I too just went through a horrible break up. I was with a girl I absolutely adored! I mean this girl was my world! Most of the time she made me feel as if I was that to her as well. She would say the most amazing things to me... I mean she really had me belive I was her everything, her rock, her best friend... It hurt so bad when she turned around in a days time and stopped calling me, and started dating a guy we had problems w/in the beginning of our relationship. I must say when this happened I acted in ways I now regret...regret horribly! However, on one hand I can see where he is coming from (I mean if you were truly in love). When
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In reply to: showtime07
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 3:39am
Showtime07? I just went through and read your old post, and I must say right now I fell as you could be my X. I truly belive my X was doing the same thing you were doing (only you were not dragging some pore guy around filling him w/false hope). Your going to be OK though! You seem like a nice person (A little self centered... JK)! Anyway, the best way to get over them is to go out and think about someone else!!!!!
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Tue, 03-25-2008 - 5:06am

hi standintall, i think there's a little confusion about my situation. my ex-bf was the one who dumped me, and he was the one who jumped into a relationship immediately afterward with another girl who had been an issue. we had problems, but i'd felt blindsided because i thought we both wanted to work things out (and he said he did before.


the things that i wish had done differently had to do with our long-distance status, not the way the break up or anything after the breakup happened. i cared for him and loved him and thought we'd spend our lives together, and thought he felt the same way.


i don't think i'm self-centered. my posts here have been full of sadness over what happened and also at times, anger. yes, much of me wishes he would feel pain too because he caused me so much and i didn't deserve it. he was incredibly mean at the end, almost like he wanted to "undo" every nice thing he'd ever done.

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In reply to: showtime07
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 5:26am
I apologize if you took offense to my post... I didn't mean it a malicious way at all. All I was saying was that I feel for you! My X also DUMPED me, she did it in a way that I never thought she could ever treat me! Over the past year and half I have put here first among everything else... Maybe that is what she didn't like, but she never communicated that to me. I did read you posts and the are hart filled... The only statment that I was trying to make is that I know deep down that some where on this same Blog community my X girlfriend was saying that about her X, yet looking me in the eye and telling me I was her everything (I just wish she was honest with me and didn't hurt me the way she did, just like your X did to you)... It literally ripped my soul out! I'm trying to level with you. I can't take anymore drama. I hope everything works out for you!
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Tue, 03-25-2008 - 5:28am



Edited 3/25/2008 5:30 am ET by standintall


Edited 3/25/2008 1:35 pm ET by standintall
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In reply to: showtime07
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 1:27pm
By the way... If you don't mind me asking, what did he do to you at the end???
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Tue, 03-25-2008 - 1:34pm

Ah one more question for you... When you were going through all that the past 6 months were you seeing anyone or dating? Where you just in your apartment by yourself hoping everything went well? I'n my recent break my X lived in my/our apartment (where she was talking/thinking/wanting him all the while making me feel that I was the one). Then we got through a special situation she had that kept her grounded (I stayed by her side the whole time b/c I wanted too, and I believed in us) we'll say and the FIRST day she's out BANG she's gone! Sorry, I'm getting off the subject! I guess my question is easy, did you have some one else?


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In reply to: showtime07
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 4:37pm

hi again, no worries. i wasn't offended, just a little confused.


i hope all goes well with you too. try to focus on yourself and not on what she's thinking/saying (esp. since the two didn't really match up before). i know it's easier said than done. hang in there; it does get better

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Tue, 03-25-2008 - 4:38pm
he gave a lot of mixed messages, just making it seem like we could try it out again after he gets his act together. but then he went back on that and just started being really mean, like the thought of me repulsed him. he said many hurtful things. and he jumped into a new relationship even though he told me he couldn't be with anyone at t he moment.
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Tue, 03-25-2008 - 4:40pm
no, i wasn't with anyone else, and that's a good thing. i haven't been in the right state to be able to be in a relationship. as much as i miss it, it wouldn't have been fair to the other person. i've been going out a lot with friends, but not dating.
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