Why would some one turn to stone? EVIL!

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Registered: 03-25-2008
Why would some one turn to stone? EVIL!
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Tue, 03-25-2008 - 11:17pm

Today I think I realized she has no feelings... Her feeling are for her self, and her self ONLY!!! So after a long night of tossing and turning & typing I got up and was getting ready for work. Then it happens the cell starts going off. It's her, my X who has not uttered a word to me since the day she got off house arrest, and decided to peruser rehashing things w/her X and messing w/a married guy. This is after 2 1/2 yrs and my fulfilled commitment to stand by her. I mean I was basically on house arrest w/her (By my choice, and she swore to me she wanted it that way & she wouldn't have to think twice about doing the same for me). Anyway, I'm getting off track... I told her I was in the middle of getting dressed and asked if I could call her back. She politely said NO WAY! See she called w/a blocked/private number, and does not want me to have it for some reason. I was amazed! I can not for the life of me understand how she can be such a rock to me... I was extremely good to her, and would never do her harm. I let it roll of the chin, and we agreed 12:30 lunch call. At 12:50 I called her desk she said she was busy, but promised se would get to me by 1:30. With that said I decide to wait (a long lunch is not a bad thing). As 2:00 approached I called her again.. No answer "OUT TO LUNCH". The only thing I can possibly think is she was playing her cards... She did mention she and her X were not going to work out. That's probably why I got the call in the AM, however, through the day I guess they decided different (or the married guy from her office she "casually" dates took her out). I sent her a few emails asking her why she would do such a thing? NO REPLY, I called her office...she had her co-worker answer and say she left. What makes someone turn on some so fast and have NO feelings what so ever? She could not have meant a word she said to me through out the whole relationship! Please some help me out... Some advice or an opinion!


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Registered: 12-10-2007
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 11:33pm
I'm still trying to figure that one out myself. Mine up and left me to play around with my best friend...Not that he was worth anything keeping around, but my best friend? Are you kidding me...theyre both worthless and can have eachother.





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Registered: 07-14-2007
Wed, 03-26-2008 - 12:10am

To be honest, if I were you, I'd have given up after she didn't call back 1:30. She didn't call - it means that you're not on her mind or she's playing games. Neither of which are a very desirable trait in a partner.

Why do some people abuse the love and commitment you invest in them? If I knew the answer, I'd bottle it and sell it, and be set for life. You'll see a pattern of girls on the board who are faithful and loving only to have their ex(es) cheat on them. Poor repayment see? But the short answer is, I can't tell you why they under-appreciate it, and you aren't meant to understand this behaviour. Why? Because that's not the type of person you are. It's just like how the average person can't understand why a serial killer does what he does. It's beyond the realm and scope of the moral ruler you live by and trying to understand is a waste of time. Capice?

Leave her behind (even though it's easier said than done). Take it as a lesson that next time, find someone that values fidelity and devotion the same way you do. In otherwords, love smarter.

All the best,


- There comes a point in your life when you realize who matters, who never did, who won't anymore, and who always will. So don't worry about people from your past - there's a reason they didn't make it into your future.
- There comes a point in your life when you realize who matters, who never did, who won't anymore, and who always will. So don't worry about people from your
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Registered: 08-22-2003
Wed, 03-26-2008 - 9:43am

standintall - sorry for your pain, and confusion. As I read some of your posts, I think there were signs all along the type of person she is.