Why would some one turn to stone? EVIL!
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| Tue, 03-25-2008 - 11:17pm |
Today I think I realized she has no feelings... Her feeling are for her self, and her self ONLY!!! So after a long night of tossing and turning & typing I got up and was getting ready for work. Then it happens the cell starts going off. It's her, my X who has not uttered a word to me since the day she got off house arrest, and decided to peruser rehashing things w/her X and messing w/a married guy. This is after 2 1/2 yrs and my fulfilled commitment to stand by her. I mean I was basically on house arrest w/her (By my choice, and she swore to me she wanted it that way & she wouldn't have to think twice about doing the same for me). Anyway, I'm getting off track... I told her I was in the middle of getting dressed and asked if I could call her back. She politely said NO WAY! See she called w/a blocked/private number, and does not want me to have it for some reason. I was amazed! I can not for the life of me understand how she can be such a rock to me... I was extremely good to her, and would never do her harm. I let it roll of the chin, and we agreed 12:30 lunch call. At 12:50 I called her desk she said she was busy, but promised se would get to me by 1:30. With that said I decide to wait (a long lunch is not a bad thing). As 2:00 approached I called her again.. No answer "OUT TO LUNCH". The only thing I can possibly think is she was playing her cards... She did mention she and her X were not going to work out. That's probably why I got the call in the AM, however, through the day I guess they decided different (or the married guy from her office she "casually" dates took her out). I sent her a few emails asking her why she would do such a thing? NO REPLY, I called her office...she had her co-worker answer and say she left. What makes someone turn on some so fast and have NO feelings what so ever? She could not have meant a word she said to me through out the whole relationship! Please some help me out... Some advice or an opinion!

To be honest, if I were you, I'd have given up after she didn't call back 1:30. She didn't call - it means that you're not on her mind or she's playing games. Neither of which are a very desirable trait in a partner.
Why do some people abuse the love and commitment you invest in them? If I knew the answer, I'd bottle it and sell it, and be set for life. You'll see a pattern of girls on the board who are faithful and loving only to have their ex(es) cheat on them. Poor repayment see? But the short answer is, I can't tell you why they under-appreciate it, and you aren't meant to understand this behaviour. Why? Because that's not the type of person you are. It's just like how the average person can't understand why a serial killer does what he does. It's beyond the realm and scope of the moral ruler you live by and trying to understand is a waste of time. Capice?
Leave her behind (even though it's easier said than done). Take it as a lesson that next time, find someone that values fidelity and devotion the same way you do. In otherwords, love smarter.
All the best,
- There comes a point in your life when you realize who matters, who never did, who won't anymore, and who always will. So don't worry about people from your past - there's a reason they didn't make it into your future.
standintall - sorry for your pain, and confusion. As I read some of your posts, I think there were signs all along the type of person she is.