UPupdate: ended it for good it seems
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UPupdate: ended it for good it seems
| Wed, 03-26-2008 - 9:21am |
so i went to get my stuff last night..
It went really well actually. I was so nervous. He let me into the apartment building, I say hi very friendly and we got into the elevator. As we were going up he faced me to kiss me, I jokingly asked if he missed me or something,

Blunt, k? No offence intended.
He's still mad at you.
yeah about the being mad. i couldve gotten into again, but its so fresh that i didnt bother. if we ever ever decide to get back together again, then of course we would have to talk about it
what do you mean by getting weaned off. i know i shouldnt seem him that often, and not for a long while either way. but if i see him in say a month or 2 months or whenever, is that a bad thing? whenever he calls to ask to hang out what should i tell him then? also if he keeps saying he misses me (just for example, not expecting it) what do i do then, or if i really miss him? im just not 100% clear on the whole weaning off thing
Do you want to get over him or do you want to stay in limbo indefinitely?
If he sees you for a few days every couple of weeks, he gets his 'fix' of you so he can go longer periods of time without seeing you.
wow that was the best thing to read. i completly understand "weaning off" that if he misses me tells me, and sees me right after, he'll be okay to keep going for a longer amout of time. like quitting smoking, i used to smoke a long time ago, and i would wean myself off slowly, so less and less every week.
i'm not going to ask for no contact. but i will be strong. if i'm busy i won't pick up, i'm not going to carry around my cell everywhere etc. if he calls and leaves a message giving me a reason to call back, then i will.
thats such a good idea about the 5 lines. if hes calling to sai hi, to hook up etc then i can easily say im busy and have to go. but if he is calling about something important, that he's sorry, wants to try again etc, then i'll listen.
of course if i'm over the idea of getting back together and want to be friends, like you said who knows where my head will be in a week, month etc. thank for that too!
i know i'm strong enough not to call (didn't once on the break, except calling back once) but now i have to be strong enough to see the difference between good and bad calls from him. thanks for that.
OH, question: should i tell him i'm not going to see him because of the whole weaning off thing, or cause i'm busy and what not
Edited 3/26/2008 2:36 pm ET by stepheb