Please help!!!why did she leave me????
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| Wed, 03-26-2008 - 8:38pm |
I met this girl recently who I had an immediate attraction with. I know she was into me and I know I was already into her. Well a month after we got to know each other one night we instantly hit it off. We hung out an entire night till 6 in the morning hanging out and talking. The next time we saw each other we went on a date and kissed and our relationship seemed to sky rocket. We would spend hours a night talking on the phone. Then every time she came over we would spend the entire night making love and coudling.
But soon however she started getting a little distant. The alarming thing was in the beginning of the relationship she told me that she goes through periods where she just leaves her partner and friends and just goes into isolation. The most wild thing that happened was one night she dumped me...i asked her if i can have time alone..she said no she wanted to still hang out ...then later she is coudling with me kissing me and wanting to have sex. Next day she comes over hangs out we order food then she dosnt mention anything that night. Later after sex she said "we shouldnt be having sex since i don't want to hurt you" later she kisses me and coudles up. Finally she started getting more distant then after not seeing her for a couple days she runs into me in school kisses me on the lips pinches my checks and tells me how much she missed me. Then later that week we made plans to see each other. I saw her in school and she was trying to avoid me. Thats when I confronted her and said no more. She called me the next day and the following day...then later that sunday. Then calling me asking about how my favorite sports team is doing and wanting to talk for hours. Eventually she got really distant with me and stoped calling everyday and never wanting to hang out anymore. Then she went on a road trip with some of her friends in school and took acid at a concert. Since then she never acted the same.
She has a very strong history of drug use. I know she also had a strong history of depression. I thought what happened was she feel in love with some one on her trip. But her old best friend who she works with but dosnt hang out with anymore hasnt spoken of any new boyfriend. My brother and my friends have ran into her at school and they say she looks sloppy and comes across as being a "loner." Her and I go to the same school and I've only seen her car. My brother says she hides in a room up in the library all day. Last semester I ran into her like 7 times. This semester 0. I know this is a long story but I had to write everything down to display the whole picture. Oh even on her myspace she is still listed as single...

I am not sure what your question is. But, very often people with Depression or other psychiatric problems use drugs to "self-medicate." Both psychiatric problems AND drug use can exhibit with signs such as flip-flopping/ indecisiveness and isolating. If she keeps to herself and dresses sloppily, and does things impulsively, it is possible she has some type of mood disorder. But, who really knows? She may not even know.
If she was depressed, she may have broken up with you or said she didn't want to hurt YOU because she was feeling low about herself, and wanted either for you to say "OH NO! I want to be with you! Please don't leave me!" OR she may have been thinking that she knows that she will hurt you based on her track record of problems/ indecisiveness.
If you consider this girl a friend, as well, or are really worried about her, you could send her an email or phone message and tell her you are concerned and ask how she is. If not, and you are broken up too much over the relationship ending, then I would say just move on and hope that she gets some help for her problems. Be grateful that she left before she dragged you down with all of her problems.
Good luck & hope you feel better about things soon! =)
Liz
Welcome to the board imwideawake,
No one can say why she left you.
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