Sounds like it did go fast and with work issues, he could be feeling overwelmed or obligated to keep up the same pace.
Asking for clarification is not a mistake in my opinion, however, it might have added to the pressure he was feeling. I'm sure he didn't want to hurt you either so it may be that telling you about starting over, going slow, hanging out, could be so he's not seen as the bad guy or he really means it.
At three months, I'd take the step back and start over again. Take time for yourself, and let him call you for dates. PROPER dates, where he asks you out several days in advance for a weekend outing and whatnot. NOT "hanging out" to watch a movie at home or whatever. REAL DATES. DO NOT go staying over his house again, not even if he invites you to, just don't do it, and definitely spend time with your girlfriends. Really, what's not to understand? Treat him as though you just met him, and that means he doesn't get all the benefits of a relationship (sex, etc.)
Oh yeah, I probably wouldn't ask my girlfriends to help me dissect his words. If you want to understand men, ask men. They're remarkbly simple to understand when you accept their words at FACE VALUE and quit trying to assign underlying or hidden meaning to them. Women do that, men usually don't ;-)
Read my post: "When he asks for space (aka, a "break"). It applies to you directly. Also, "Why did he lose Interest?" and 'When to contact after they ask for space" All of those will help you and are in the Resources section of this board.
To be honest, when a woman is unwilling to take a step back from a relationship she's in, insists on forcing the issue of being together, it comes across every time as neediness. Quick attraction killer. Take the step back, do it happily, watch the attraction grow again. When they ask for an inch, give 'em a mile and do it with a smile. They'll wonder what you're up to.
its probably wrong timing.
Welcome to the board letsgostate05,
Sounds like it did go fast and with work issues, he could be feeling overwelmed or obligated to keep up the same pace.
Asking for clarification is not a mistake in my opinion, however, it might have added to the pressure he was feeling. I'm sure he didn't want to hurt you either so it may be that telling you about starting over, going slow, hanging out, could be so he's not seen as the bad guy or he really means it.
At three months, I'd take the step back and start over again. Take time for yourself, and let him call you for dates. PROPER dates, where he asks you out several days in advance for a weekend outing and whatnot. NOT "hanging out" to watch a movie at home or whatever. REAL DATES. DO NOT go staying over his house again, not even if he invites you to, just don't do it, and definitely spend time with your girlfriends. Really, what's not to understand? Treat him as though you just met him, and that means he doesn't get all the benefits of a relationship (sex, etc.)
Oh yeah, I probably wouldn't ask my girlfriends to help me dissect his words. If you want to understand men, ask men. They're remarkbly simple to understand when you accept their words at FACE VALUE and quit trying to assign underlying or hidden meaning to them. Women do that, men usually don't ;-)
Read my post: "When he asks for space (aka, a "break"). It applies to you directly.
Also, "Why did he lose Interest?" and 'When to contact after they ask for space"
All of those will help you and are in the Resources section of this board.
To be honest, when a woman is unwilling to take a step back from a relationship she's in, insists on forcing the issue of being together, it comes across every time as neediness. Quick attraction killer. Take the step back, do it happily, watch the attraction grow again. When they ask for an inch, give 'em a mile and do it with a smile. They'll wonder what you're up to.
Good luck,
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